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Tricky situation, please help!

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manicattack Mon 15-Feb-16 13:34:32

Ok where to start, My girlfriends best friend has put me in a bit of a bind, she decided she's ready to not only talk to girls on this plenty of fish site but she's been actually going out and meeting up.

At first i kinda thought its not my business but then i realised that my girlfriend also new all about this too and had obvioviously been keeping it a secret, well my girlfriend told me about this kiss her best friend had the other night with this group of other lesbians.

im devasted i actually get on better with my girlfriends bestfriends girlfriend and i totally adore the baby, but now i m not going to be able to sit with them knowing i could just get an attack of the guilt monster and just blurt it out it as it has happened before.

Mind you she's no angel, she has slept with men in the past, but i thought after they planned their baby and she was born they would all end up with their happy ending.

Im worried about when it does come out and she knows i knew and i never said anything, will she hate me too?, im not great at lying and if she asked me she'd no there was something wrong .

what do i do?

Nanny0gg Mon 15-Feb-16 13:37:01



TwatMagnet Mon 15-Feb-16 13:40:17


Finola1step Mon 15-Feb-16 13:40:36

I am finding your post somewhat hard to follow. I think the situation is this... You ate in a relationship with your gf. She has a best friend who is in a relationship with a woman and they have a baby together. The bf is cheating on her partner with other women she meets online. You feel bad because you get on really well with the partner being cheated on. Did I get it right?

Finola1step Mon 15-Feb-16 13:41:13

Are not ate!

sheffieldsteeler Mon 15-Feb-16 13:42:32


your girlfriend has a best friend who has a girlfriend
GF's best mate, and GF's BM's girlfriend have a baby
GF'sBM and GF'sBM's GF have split up (?)

Or not?

Either way, your girlfriend's best mate is now on an internet dating site and meeting people. Which is a problem, why?

You would be hugely unreasonable to get involved in any of this. It sounds fraught.

BettyBi0 Mon 15-Feb-16 13:45:21

I'm a bit lost too. Are you feeling guilty because you know about someone else's infidelity?

OhShutUpThomas Mon 15-Feb-16 13:46:58

Are you on glue?

eatyouwithaspoon Mon 15-Feb-16 13:47:47

Sounds very complex confused

Frostycake Mon 15-Feb-16 13:48:29

God, you can tell it's half term can't you...

phequer Mon 15-Feb-16 13:50:25

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SnuffleGruntSnorter Mon 15-Feb-16 13:52:07

Please can you clarify the situation op?

manicattack Mon 15-Feb-16 13:59:04

Yes the situations right but no there not split up . i know if it was the other way around i would want to no id rather deal with the truth then believe in a lie . but i think im going to have to keep out the way for a while or i will ending up feeling like i cheated on her .

shoeaddict83 Mon 15-Feb-16 14:01:06

so very confused?!! Ive read that post 3 times, once veerrryy slowly and still cannot figure it out??confused

CircusFeak Mon 15-Feb-16 14:02:07

Are you in love with your girlfriends best mates girlfriend OP?

manicattack Mon 15-Feb-16 14:02:40

Excuse me yes i am on half term from college . yes i might not be great or even good at english but im an awesome carpenter and joiner remeber your attitude not so much your education rubs off on your children

sheffieldsteeler Mon 15-Feb-16 14:04:08

How did you find out? Did your girlfriend tell you? Did you see her best mate on the dating site?! confused If your girlfriend is effectively encouraging her best mate to cheat on her partner, and is telling people about it, then this whole situation is going to go nuclear imminently without any help from you. I mean, this alone sounds like a whole 'nother story >> i could just get an attack of the guilt monster and just blurt it out it as it has happened before

Back away, fast. Do not feed the drama llamas.

RedMapleLeaf Mon 15-Feb-16 14:04:11

Deckchair, popcorn etc

OhShutUpThomas Mon 15-Feb-16 14:06:54

Put your carpentry skills to good use.

Tell her through the medium of an enormous wooden sculpture depicting the situation.

Doingmyheadin2016 Mon 15-Feb-16 14:07:15

I'm even more confused now you are worried about cheating on her? I don't get it sorry.

LagunaBubbles Mon 15-Feb-16 14:09:09

What do you do?

Break your post down and explain it a bit better, rather it being a series of unrelated facts. Remember we are not in your head!

manicattack Mon 15-Feb-16 14:10:02

It will be explosive the cheater is a larger than life character, but her girlfriend has a chavy streak i just hope the baby is at its nanna i ve seen the profile on plennty of fish and here pic come up on the google search for her profile i think your right she'll find out i m just ganna keep my head down

OhShutUpThomas Mon 15-Feb-16 14:12:22

Are these men or women you're talking about? Just trying to build a picture as I haven't a clue what you're going on about.

The baby's nanna is on POF with a larger than life girlfriend?

goddessofsmallthings Mon 15-Feb-16 14:12:27

Something on the lines of Mr Hancock's 'Aphrodite at the Watering Hole' but in Scots pine rather than Italian marble, RedMapleLeaf?

<fetches brew and cake and cushions for the deckchairs>

LovelyFriend Mon 15-Feb-16 14:12:30

Its not that tricky:

the OP's girlfriend's best friend, is cheating on her partner.
They have a baby.

OP has formed a nice friendship with the GR's BF's DP and they all spend time together.

OP feels bad because she gets on very well with her GF's BF's DP and is worried she won't be able to keep the secret. And/or she feels like an a-hole for keeping the secret at all and is worried she may just blurt out the truth/not be able to lie.

I'm not sure if it the cheater or the cheater's P who has had a baby, but I don't think it really matters.

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