Went and took DP his valentines presents this morning. Nothing special, just a big box of chocolates, a cheesy mug and a homemade card. He muttered 'oh yeah I'm gonna go get yours later' and rolled back over it wasn't that he had forgot it was valentines, we've spoke about it. He just thinks that getting it on the day is ok. I said there's not going to be any nice flowers left now so don't bother. We are going out for lunch with the baby, not sure who's going to pay.
I know some of you don't agree with valentines, and I may be BU because my three best friends have got a puppy, a spa weekend and a diamond necklace respectively. However, he went Christmas shopping last year about 7pm on Christmas Eve, when obviously the shops were shut, so I had no presents to wake up to. He knew I had made a massive fuss of him, he got about 15-20 presents from me.
He comes from quite a dysfunctional family who often struggled with money and other issues so didn't really celebrate Christmas/ birthdays (the main reason I spoilt him so much this Christmas to try and make his first proper family Christmas one he really enjoyed - though I know this isn't about gifts/ money). He did make an effort on my birthday a few weeks ago - I don't know if he just has to get used to thinking of these types of celebrations as a time to really show how much you care - or whether he just couldn't give a shit.
So am IBU for thinking cards/ presents for valentines/ birthdays/ christmas from a DP should be planned and purchased/ made before so they can be presented first thing and it seems like you have put an ounce of thought and care into it?
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AIBU to think a present bought on the day is pointless?
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FedoraTheExplora · 14/02/2016 11:41
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