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No I am not bloody broody!!!

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Sometimesithinkimbonkers Sat 06-Feb-16 19:25:25

Might out myself here .... Hey ho!!!!

I'm 21+18 and have 3 DC. Ds8 DD 4 and our disabled DS6.

DS6 is still in nappies, he can't talk, requires a wheelchair as he can't walk far, his favourite programmes are on baby tv. He functions around 18-24 months. He has a rare gene mutation along with Cerebal palsy, epilepsy and autism. He is fed using a gastrostomy.
He wakes at 2-3 am and that's his morning so I am over over over over over overtired.

People are asking me "am I broody!?"

No I'm not .... I own a fucking massive 6 year old baby to be fair he is absolutely beautiful and only the size of a 4 year old but he's still massive.

I probably am being unreasonable as its mums my age who have gone on to have more than 3 children and I holding their newborn!!!

Don't bother ... I know I ABU but.....

I'm not broody !!!!!!

NoCapes Sat 06-Feb-16 19:30:44

confused you're pregnant but not broody? People are asking a pregnant woman if she's broody?
What??? confused

formerbabe Sat 06-Feb-16 19:34:00

Are you pregnant op? Sorry I'm confused!

TwoKettles Sat 06-Feb-16 19:36:07

I've read this that you are 39... and I think it's nowt to do with anyone apart from you about whether you're broody.

CalleighDoodle Sat 06-Feb-16 19:36:37

ARe you 21 years and 18 days old?

CarbonEmittingPenguin Sat 06-Feb-16 19:39:01

what is 21+18?

LazyDaysAndTuesdays Sat 06-Feb-16 19:40:25

I'm confused. Are you pregnant?

NeedACleverNN Sat 06-Feb-16 19:42:21

I think 21 + 18 is supposed to be a way of saying I'm 39 but don't want to admit it

SweetAdeline Sat 06-Feb-16 19:45:41

If they're close enough to ask that question they are close enough to hear the truth. If anyone asks about my plans for my uterus at the moment I just tell them that we'd love another but despite trying for a year and a half I haven't been able to get more than 11 weeks pregnant. If they can't handle the answer they shouldn't ask such a personal question.

formerbabe Sat 06-Feb-16 19:47:19

Oh I see. How odd...I have two dc and no one ever asks if I'm broody....so I'm baffled as to why they'd ask a mother of 3 dc that!

VocationalGoat Sat 06-Feb-16 19:48:03

I think you're overwhelmed, underslept, and having a chronically tough time of it. You never need to explain your feelings to a soul. Motherhood can be an uphill battle at the best of times. I'm feckin' knackered...constantly hitting a wall of fatigue and I don't have a disabled child with specific needs, so I absolutely respect you, admire you, and above all, hope you find peace in your days. My friend has 2DCs, one of nearly 8 who fits your son's description. The lack of sleep, the long nights, and the rest is just painful. Love gets them through the demands of dealing with their disabled beloved boy. But it's damn hard.
That's what MN is for: support, venting, just finding a safe space to let off steam. Hugs to you. You're a admirable soul.

Sleepybunny Sat 06-Feb-16 19:48:19

21+18=39

Wakey Wakey people!

YANBU, it must be so hard caring for all your DC when so sleep deprived. God only knows why someone would ask if you're broody. Assuming the asker is also sleep deprived, insane or has know idea what you're going through.

VocationalGoat Sat 06-Feb-16 19:49:20

* an admirable soul, not 'a'.
Bad grammar... as usual. smile

NoCapes Sat 06-Feb-16 19:50:06

Why not just say you're 39? confused very odd!

AlwaysHopeful1 Sat 06-Feb-16 19:50:27

Why wouldn't you just say you're 39confused

DontCareHowIWantItNow Sat 06-Feb-16 19:51:18

hmm

ByThePrickingOfMyThumbs Sat 06-Feb-16 19:58:34

So you're 39? And don't want any more DC?

I think you're reading too much into it honestly. Lots of new mums pass over their newborns and then ask 'aww, is s/he making you broody?' They don't mean anything by it - it's just a way of conveying how blissfully besotted they are with their new baby. You're personal circumstances do sound difficult but I really would try not to get cross about this. It's very minor. Are you alright OP?

FoxesSitOnBoxes Sat 06-Feb-16 19:58:43

Oi! What's with all the hmm!? That's not very supportive angry be nice everyone.
Don't listen to them OP. I had no idea what 21+18 was but really don't think that was the take home bit in your post. Anyway, YANBU.

Nodowntime Sat 06-Feb-16 20:09:43

I thought it was a very funny way of saying your age, I thought I might adopt it!
And not for a moment did your post make me think you were pregnant, why on earth did people think that??

It is weird that you are being asked if you are broody, the only explanation I can think of is that you had three with 2 year gaps between them, and now it's been 4 years and no more kids, so people are making assumptions? And also in my experience whenever you are holding or being near a newborn, people ask you that!!

OneMoreCupOfTea Sat 06-Feb-16 20:15:06

YANBU, people should think more carefully before asking personal questions. I imagine it is really hard bringing up three children especially when one is disabled.
21+18 obviously means 39, no need for all the confused faces

HesterShaw Sat 06-Feb-16 20:22:57

Why are people nitpicking over the way the OP expressed her age when she clearly posted for support?

That sounds bloody hard work flowers. Of course you're not broody under those circs. I'm astonished that anyone would be so mannerless and stupid as to ask.

shutupandshop Sat 06-Feb-16 20:29:27

Just reply no I hate kids.grin

NoCapes Sat 06-Feb-16 20:37:33

NoDownTime because when you're pregnant you count it in weeks + days. I've never ever heard someone say their age by making you add 2 numbers together

I'm 14 + 13 confused

thatscottishbiscuit Sat 06-Feb-16 20:43:14

People astonish me every day.

I am asked the same thing fairly regularly, even by people who know my DH is terminally ill (and even by someone who knew that I'd have to have a termination if I did get pregnant because of the type of chemo DH is on).

You have my sympathies and flowers and I send you much strength to deal with your lovely DCs

WelliesTheyAreWonderful Sat 06-Feb-16 21:02:07

hmm to all the people going hmm , let's look past the irrelevant stuff and give her a bit of support, eh?

OP it sounds like they just have no idea. I had years of cringing when people asked me that in anticipation of me eventually having a kid. I thought it would stop when I had DS. It didn't, and he's only 8 months! He was under a month old when someone asked me when I has having another one. I just stared at her, I genuinely couldn't find the words. At that point I still couldn't sit down properly! You sound like you are doing an amazing job, just say 'yeah whatever' and carry on.

thatscottishbiscuit shock at that person's stupidity and I'm so sorry for what you're going through.

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