swearing...

[Wardy1993]

I'm sitting in pil's living room with 'd'h and my 6 week old... During conversation I said the word shit and my mil said as a joke 'cover your ears baby wardy!' Then my fil said that he never swore in front of his children when they were young then my husband started going on saying 'I don't want his first word to be a swear word blah blah' then fil adds 'if he said that stuff at school he would get thrown out' ... After 5 minutes of my husband going on I abruptly told him to shut up basically... I felt really undermined and embarrassed. Am I being ridiculous or were they ganging up on me unnecessarily? My mum swore at times but we never did when we were kids... Would never have dreamt of it! Was my husband unreasonable not to play the situation down in front of my in laws?! Surely he has faith that when I talk to our son in the future every other word isn't going to be C U Next Tuesday?!??

[NoArmaniNoPunani]

I'm pretty chilled about swear words. Kids are going to hear them. As long as they learn there's a time and a place to use them I can't see the problem. I think your dh was unreasonable.

[CornishDoll82]

As PP said, children will hear swearing anyway - it's just about learning what's appropriate and what's not. I swear quite a lot but I wouldn't in a job interview for instance!

[TrojanWhore]

They were certainly going on about it to an unnecessary extent.

But as they clearly don't like swearing, don't do it again in front of them.

(And you may as well get used to it now, because DC will pick it up like blotting paper from an alarmingly early age. So if it's a habit that you currently can't control you've got a bit of time to find ways in which you can).

[EponasWildDaughter]

I think that this was one of those normal conversations which was nevertheless tactless of them, given that you're a new mum, probably feeling sensitive and quick to feel 'ganged up on'.

I'm sure he doesn't think you'll be swearing in front of you DC all the time

When you're alone with him and feeling calmer tell him you're sensitive right now and you felt a little upset about the comments re: swearing. He should give you a nice hug and apolgise :)

[ArkATerre]

You could have told them you weren't intending to make a habit of it when they were old enough to repeat it.

[catsofa]

Your baby is 6 weeks old, YANBU!

[AlwaysHopeful1]

I think you were very rude to tell them to shut up which only confirms your use of bad language to them. I have never heard my parents swear once, Dh and I don't swear and tbh I don't think it's all that normal as some people manage just fine without it. However I don't think 'shit' is the worst word.

[MissFlight]

Massive over reaction from pils and dh, baby is 6 weeks old ffs.

[Wardy1993]

Hi always I didn't tell them all to shut up I just tactfully told my husband to under my breath..! Thanks for your responses I'm calm now! That's the thing I'm not somebody that is effing and jeffing every 5 minutes... I just got a bit irritated as it felt like they were digging at me ... I think as well its the first time I have ever felt like this with my pil's and it took me by surprise and I am going through some health problems related to the birth which is quite hard for me at the moment so I just feel like I need h to be on my side!

[AlwaysHopeful1]

Sorry I read you told your pil! Sorry. In any case I don't think shit is a swear word and sounds like a slip of the tongue.

[Wardy1993]

Thanks always I was kind of trying to get the story down quick as I was fuming and needed to hear some rational comments from you lot... It's one of those where I genuinely didn't mean to upset anyone but you know I'm human and I'm different... Oh well eh! X