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To not go to the other side of the world on my own?

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terrweath Sat 06-Feb-16 13:45:47

After a breakup, I still have tickets for dream destination booked.

I know there are some good reasons why I should maybe go anyway but AIBU to not want to go?

ajandjjmum Sat 06-Feb-16 13:47:24

Can you get a refund and use the money to go elsewhere?

ivykaty44 Sat 06-Feb-16 13:48:06

Is it a holiday? To live?

MadameZeCow Sat 06-Feb-16 13:49:41

Can a friend go with you? Refund? Exchange to somewhere closer to home with a friend?

TubbyTabby Sat 06-Feb-16 13:49:53

where is it? is it australia, new zealand?

terrweath Sat 06-Feb-16 14:04:35

I can't get a refund.

Just a trip.

Atenco Sat 06-Feb-16 14:11:40

I think you should.

I travelled alone when I was young and found it so interesting, you are a much better position to meet new people and I just had a visit here in Mexico from a young girl who headed out from England to the USA and Mexico by herself. She met some lovely people on the way.

Bear in mind though that there will be times when you feel tremendously alone.

FaceTheFace Sat 06-Feb-16 14:12:16

I think you should go. Solo travel can be an incredible experience. You've already paid for it! ...if you got there and really hated it could you change your ticket to return early?

It's just a shame to waste the money you can't get back.

Sleepingbunnies Sat 06-Feb-16 14:12:41

Go! I went to Australia on my own at 21 and had the time of my life!

CatThiefKeith Sat 06-Feb-16 14:13:01

I could come with you and keep you company? Or, if you'd feel more comfortable, perhaps you could ask a friend irl to join you?

Personally I would go on my own, but I realise that isn't everybody's cup of tea.

sooperdooper Sat 06-Feb-16 14:13:34

Can someone go with you? If not then do go alone, it'll be a great experience & a massive waste of money if you can't get a refund

terrweath Sat 06-Feb-16 14:14:11

There isn't anybody I could take, and I just think I'd find it really depressing. The flight is over 2 days and I think I'd feel very self conscious doing tourist things alone.

museumum Sat 06-Feb-16 14:18:53

Is it a place you wanted to see? Is there stuff to do/see?
Then I think you should go. Loads of people go travelling alone. Seriously hundreds and thousands.

If it's a smoochy honeymoon cabin with nothing but a bed and room service then maybe take the flights and find alternative accommodation out there.

Either way I don't think I could sit at home knowing the tickets were beng wasted.

What's the worst that could happen? You feel a bit socially awkward at mealtimes? (Eat street food or room service)

Borderterrierpuppy Sat 06-Feb-16 14:20:30

Just go! I went on holiday years ago and had the best time ever! Yes I was nervous as anything before I went but I met so many lovely people. Seize the day xxxx

TubbyTabby Sat 06-Feb-16 14:21:20

you'll meet other solo females wherever it is you're going.

Borderterrierpuppy Sat 06-Feb-16 14:21:36

If it's to nz I can come smile my sister lives in Auckland and I have never been smile

NannyR Sat 06-Feb-16 14:21:39

If its aus/nz, then you won't stick out as a single traveller, loads of people travel around those places on their own.

Have you booked accommodation yet? If not, I would recommend looking into staying at youth hostels or "backpackers". You could still have your own room if you don't fancy staying in a dorm, but the main advantages are that they are very sociable, you will meet lots of people of all ages, will be able to self cater if you don't fancy eating in restaurants all the time, you can hook up with other solo travellers to do the touristy things if you want company.

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sat 06-Feb-16 14:23:09

I went travelling on my own for 7 months. Best thing I ever did. Met so many people and lots of people in the same boat. Go!

PamDooveOrangeJoof Sat 06-Feb-16 14:23:50

In fact I craved time on my own as so many people want to make friends!

pasturesgreen Sat 06-Feb-16 14:24:17

Go for it, OP! Solo travel can be fantastically fun! Just think you'll get to do exactly what you want to do: see the sights you want to see, browse the shops for how ever long you fancy, eat when you feel like it, get up/go to bed when you decide...

I've been going solo for years and now I wouldn't go back for the world (though still child free, admittedly - but if you can, it can be huge fun!)

TensionWheelsCoolHeels Sat 06-Feb-16 14:25:28

I went to NZ on my own, nearly 20 years ago. I can still remember sitting in the departure lounge, absolutely terrified, thinking WTF have I done? But, it was a brilliant holiday and experience, I met loads of people like me, travelling alone, and it was well worth it in the end.

It might just be the boost you need to get past what's happened and move on. But, if you really can't face it, then you should do what's best for you.

Shakey15000 Sat 06-Feb-16 14:26:18

Ye Gads, I'd be on that plane like a shot. Go. It could be the best experience of your life. And if by chance it isn't, you'll have lost nothing.

Eeeek686 Sat 06-Feb-16 14:29:03

May out myself here but I had a major relationship breakup whilst working a summer in NZ - broke up a good 2 months before planned return - and decided to stay and work out my contact and also to tour around by myself as I was damned if I was going to miss out! grin

Rearranged some stuff so was able to do 'group' visits and stayed in hostels so meet since like minded folk along the way (& was in early 30s so not your average gap-year candidate!)....
Turned out to be really worthwhile and cathartic as it gave me room to reflect and plan my (new) future outside of the constraints of "our" everyday life, iyswim?

I'd say Go for it!! X

Lweji Sat 06-Feb-16 14:29:50

I'd love to go and love doing touristy things alone. It means I can do whatever I want, when I want it, at my own pace.
Having said that, I've been known to make "friends" while going on things alone (usually because they are within a work trip). It helps to join local tours and to chat to other tourists.

GabiSolis Sat 06-Feb-16 14:32:43

Oh God I would love this. OP, I do understand because the idea is not for everyone but in the circumstances, unless you're going somewhere dangerous, this might be really good for you.

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