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so what do you my babysitter being incredibly cheeky? or is she right

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ralphi Thu 04-Feb-16 21:24:07

I have a babysitter for my daughter on a Wednesday afternoon as my son and daughter have activities that start at the same time but in wildly different places. She picks my daughter up, takes her to the activity, and then takes her home for an hour or so until I get home. Today I asked her to take a friend of my daughters to our house as well. When I got home ( half an hour before the end of the time I pay her for, but pay her for anyway if that makes sense) she asked me for double the money for the friend. I paid her, being very surprised, but now am really cross. Yes I know I should have said something but the girls were with me when we had the discussion and I didnt want to have a row in front of them. I only agreed to have the friend as a favour as her üarents have separated and he had to work late. Was she incredibly cheeky or AIBU?

janethegirl2 Thu 04-Feb-16 21:26:07

She was being paid per hour not per child I'd have assumed. Cheeky cow!

alltouchedout Thu 04-Feb-16 21:26:37

I think YABU. Twice the children should mean twice the pay. Although she should have said this to you when you asked her to care for dd's friend.

BaronessEllaSaturday Thu 04-Feb-16 21:27:09

Yabu you pay her to look after one child for that amount not two.

Littlefish Thu 04-Feb-16 21:27:46

I think you were being unreasonable. Presumably the amount you pay her was agreed, and covers one child.

Suddenly, you have included another child with little/no notice. I'm not surprised she asked for additional pay.

Blondeshavemorefun Thu 04-Feb-16 21:27:54

im a nanny/maternity nurse

if i looked after a child (your dd) and then mum asked if i could take dd friend as well for a one off i would be fine with that and tbh both would prob be company for each and wouldnt want extra

but if it was an every week thing then maybe a bit extra but not double

Roonerspism Thu 04-Feb-16 21:28:09

YANBU. She is cheeky!

Two of the same age are actually less work IMHO

PotteringAlong Thu 04-Feb-16 21:28:20

I think yabu too. You can't double her work for no more money.

Neverpolishghillies Thu 04-Feb-16 21:28:57

Next time don't assume and agree the terms and conditions before.

Blondeshavemorefun Thu 04-Feb-16 21:29:07

its an extra child for an hour, or even 30mins as op was back 30min early

hardly a hassle

gobbynorthernbird Thu 04-Feb-16 21:29:17

You ABU. You have paid her to have DD for an hour (or however long) so she has made that time free whether you use it or not. Did you expect her to mind an extra child for free?

QuietWhenReading Thu 04-Feb-16 21:29:22

It's not really that cheeky, it's twice the work.

I would assume two things from this:

Either they (or st least the friend) was difficult.

Or your babysitter was annoyed about being asked to take two children and doesn't want to do it again.

Iwanttokillthem Thu 04-Feb-16 21:29:30

Yabu . Good for her for valuing her time more than you do.

Arfarfanarf Thu 04-Feb-16 21:29:32

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SaucyJack Thu 04-Feb-16 21:30:55

I think if paying her extra was going to be an issue for you, then you should have discussed it before doubling her workload.

It would have been nice if she'd done it as a favour- and I'm sure plenty would- but I guess she's in it to make money.

MuttonDressedAsMutton Thu 04-Feb-16 21:31:48

Unless it would be tricky to replace her I'd sack her off for the bare faced cheek! She took the piss and you let her - but that doesn't mean she gets to make a monkey of you again.

ralphi Thu 04-Feb-16 21:32:21

I did ask her by text if that was okay, and this was the first time in a year that therewas a friend involved.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Thu 04-Feb-16 21:32:31


That's not what she agreed to.

RumAppleGinger Thu 04-Feb-16 21:33:15

As a one off I probably wouldn't have asked for money but I would have been annoyed that you asked me in front of the girls and would have felt that i couldn't say no.

I would also have been annoyed if I was the other girls mum and you said you would look after her and then left her with someone else.

arethereanyleftatall Thu 04-Feb-16 21:33:30

Some babysitters charge by the hour and some per child.

She's obviously the latter which is up to her, as she is offering a service.

You should have clarified with her before asking her.


ralphi Thu 04-Feb-16 21:33:30

she said that was fine, but did not mention the extra cost.

ByThePrickingOfMyThumbs Thu 04-Feb-16 21:33:53


You can't just double her workload and expect her to suck it up. Of course she needed to be paid extra.

CalleighDoodle Thu 04-Feb-16 21:36:11

Ywbu. You didnt ask before you changed her working conditions. Maybe she was advised by the other place to make sure you disnt pull that stunt again😌

janethegirl2 Thu 04-Feb-16 21:36:15

If you are working for someone the rate is agreed. It shouldn't matter if it's one or two children you are looking after.

ralphi Thu 04-Feb-16 21:36:21

she asked me for the money in front of the girls and I felt I couldnt say no, but was then annoyed with myself for not even questioning it. I guess in the future, I will just have to ask not only if it is Ok, but if it will cost more. sStrangely when she looks after my kids in the evening, which has happened ta couple of time she does not charge double for my son and my daughter.

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