I've posted about this before under another name and was told to either accept it or let go of it entirely. Both very valid POVs.
My closest friend, who I actually describe as my best friend and I met over 15 years ago. When we initially met we were just acquaintances that moved in similar circles and didn't think much of each other. But as time went on we became very close.
We then lived together for about 2 years but after that we both left the country and lived elsewhere. We did, however, stay in touch and would speak most, if not, every day.
Her birthday was last week and I was looking for a photo of us because I wanted to send it to one of those customise-your-own-photo companies so that they'd put 'Happy Birthday' over it.
I really struggled to find one of the two of us together. Yes there were many photos of us within the same vicinity or with mutual friends but truthfully there was only 3 decent photos of us just together.
She's since fallen out with or no longer speaks to all the people she'd once considered close - whom I'd actually met on various nights out or just understood to be her close friends.
When I scoured FB for a picture of us (she keeps FB albums of everything going years back) to use for the birthday card I couldn't find a decent one of us so just went with a random one but I recall thinking were it any of the 3 'close' friends she no longer speaks to or is close to; there'd be many many many pictures to use of them.
I know I need to get a grip. She is my closest friend and the past is the past. But I'd still like a bit of a rant. I'll raise it with her next week at some point but I don't want to piss on her parade at the moment.
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CarbonEmittingPenguin · 04/02/2016 18:49
Raise what with her? What is the issue? That you don't have lots of photos of the two of you? 
I don't understand. You're best friends but there aren't any pics of you together, and there are more pics if people who used to be friends but now aren't?
So what?
There must be more to this than you've posted? You don't gave photos of each other?
Where is the issue here?
I don't have any photos of me and my closest friends save one or two from weddings where we're accidentally in the same shot. I honestly don't think I've given it a moments thought and I certainly wouldn't raise with any of them as an issue.
This is a non problem.
Take some photos of the two you together now and forget all about it.
Surely if there was a problem at all and not just in your head you'd both be to blame? There's a lack of joint pics of you with your friend and you're going to tackle it with her?
I think that people take a lot more photos now than in years gone by because most people have phones with decent cameras. Maybe when you saw a lot of each other the whole taking a pic at every opportunity hadn't taken off yet.
Don't make your friend feel bad because of this.
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I only have 3 or 4 photos of me and my best friend together, and the most recent one was taken almost 10 years ago at my daughters wedding.
I have loads of her on her own, with her/my children/grandchildren, but together, not many at all 
I'm assuming it's usually the other one of us taking the photo.
But 3 or 4 photos in a 40+ year friendship! isn't a lot really, of course lots of my photos would be taken pre mobile, when we had to use a camera and selfies weren't heard of.....old bugger that I am
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