To think this is disgusting and should not be allowed

[Ohthebuildersarehere]

Man has given his sperm to 800 women, they pay him £50 which means his kids could meet each other when they're older.

AIBU to think this should lead to prove section?

[bornwithaplasticspoon]

800? Jeez he's been busy.

[Oysterbabe]

Should lead to what?

There's a lady on the conception board who made use of a similar service. I don't have a problem with it particularly. I guess the parents will have to explain the situation once the kids are of an age where they're sexually active so they can check whether their partner was conceived in similar circumstances.

[notquitehuman]

None of his kids will be able to have casual sex when they grow up! "Err, before we get started I just wanted to check you weren't conceived by sperm donor. Cos I've got 799 half siblings..."

[Pipistrella]

Are there not, I dunno, limits on this sort of activity? If only to stop this guy from completely taking over the gene pool of the equivalent of a small borough?

[GreenishMe]

I'm not really sure how I feel about sperm donation. On the one hand I think it's great that it can help people....but on the other hand I wonder how it will affect the child when he/she reaches adulthood.

We already know how adopted and/or 'fatherless' kids can feel driven to find their birth parents because of the need to know their 'heritage'. How awful it must be to discover that there's no hope of ever finding out who your father is....of ever really knowing who you are?

[Gunting]

Is this the guy who sells his sperm on Facebook selling pages?

Grim.

[Vaginaaa]

That's cheap. Do you have his details?

[willowsummers]

Through a licensed clinic, sperm donation is not anonymous and so you can track down your 'father.'

I wonder, Greenish if you therefore feel same sex couples, single women and hetrosexual couples with fertility problems or inherited conditions should simply abstain from parenthood?

And are your views the same for egg donors?

[Pipistrella]

I know someone who tried using donated sperm, to conceive within a civil partnership, and despite three attempts it didn't work. So I think it's probably unlikely he actually has 800 children, if that makes sense. I'm not entirely sure what the success rate is with that method - or how much it's monitored after the goods leave the building, as it were...

[Gunting]

I don't think it's totally anonymous as I read an interview with him and he said for the past 10y he's had a baby born every week or something crazy.

[Palomb]

I feel quite sorry for all of his kids! Using tracable donor sperm is one thing, buying sperm off the internet is something else entirely.

[GreenishMe]

No Willow....my comments were simply a concern about how the children are affected. I didn't mention anything about anyone abstaining from parenthood....that was you.

Stop trying to cause a fight when there isn't

[LadyIsabellaWrotham]

Greenish was specifically talking about anonymous donation willow, not donation through a UK clinic (or from a friend).

[willowsummers]

I'm not trying to start a fight at all Greenish, but presumably the woman has to meet the man in these instances to obtain the sperm, so it isn't really anonymous in the way donated sperm from a clinic is, until the child turns 18 at any rate.

[GreenishMe]

Ok Willow, thanks for that

[Neverpolishghillies]

Good for him, if more men donated sperm then people who need it would have more choice.

I'm sure that parents that have gone to such great length to get child, will try to do their very best for them, and will educate their child about their origins and they will be able to make informed choices.

[Veritat]

A cousin of DH's was born by artificial insemination by donor. She's a very well-adjusted 22 year old, not in any way bothered about the circumstances of her birth.

[Atenco]

I agree with you Greenish. I am not a moral arbitrator and I'm sure sperm donation has allowed some very good people to become parents, but sooner or later children usually want to know who their father is.

[Gruntfuttock]

"AIBU to think this should lead to prove section?"

I haven't the slightest idea what that means.

[willowsummers]

Do you feel the same about egg donation, Atenco?

[caroldecker]

If he did not go through a licensed clinic, he can be chased through the CSA for child support.

[Brodicea]

Not THAT many people are looking around for spare sperm to make it likely that the offspring will procreate surely. Also even if he has 800 sales of his spunk, doesn't mean he has had 800 conceptions and 800 live births - total bollocks!

[YakTriangle]

It's incredibly irresponsible to do this without any limits or checks in place. What happens when those children grow up if any of them accidentally end up in relationships with relatives that they didn't know existed? Stupid man.

[BillSykesDog]

Greenish, children born from egg, sperm and embryo donation have a legal right to be given all their parents details at age 18. So they will never be in a 'never knowing' position, especially given that there parents are aware of this.

This man is a disgrace and so are the women involved. Going through a properly regulated clinic means the children are protected from STDs, genetic conditions and other factors which can damage or disable them. The children are protected from too many siblings and have better legal protection. They also make sure the parents are not unsuitable, eg no sex offence or violence convictions, no children already in care.

I have an IUI baby and 2 IVF babies on the way, so I'm not saying this from a privileged position of never needing help (prob also going to be an embryo donor at some point too).

If a woman is fertile and does not require medication (ie the sort of women who use this service) a round of donor IUI is well shy of £1k.

If you can't pony that up you a) can't afford a child; b) are not responsible enough to have a child seeing as you don't care about protecting them or their children from disease.

It's sordid and seamy and by definition involves people who care more about their own desire for a child than they do about that child's welfare.