Dh is notoriously bad at booking leave - he will take the odd day off, here and there (but if work emails come through, he will still work at home, even if he is technically on leave).
Apart from Christmases, I can't remember the last time he had a substantial amount of time off (ie. a week or more) - he probably hasn't had more than the odd day off since we stopped having family holidays 4 years ago!
His attitude is that work comes first - he doesn't book leave because he doesn't know what his workload is going to be or what the timescale will be on projects he's going to be asked to work on/lead - and by the time he does know, it's too late to book any leave.
I just want him to look ahead in the diary, pick a week (or even - gasp - a fortnight) sometime after Easter, and book it as leave - then tell work he is not available at that time. Obviously, if there's something business-critical going on, that he has to be there for, then he wouldn't ask for leave at that point, but if there isn't anything that critical going on, I don't think it is unreasonable to want him to prioritise some time off.
He is a workaholic, and very dedicated to his work, and most of the time I accept that - the boys are all over 18, and away from home a lot (two at university, one has graduated and moved out to start a job), and I can manage on my own (though I do struggle with this, due to poor mental health), but it would be nice if family life occasionally got priority.
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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/02/2016 13:24
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