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To think this friend is being a bit cheeky to just expect me to go shopping for her on my holiday?

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CallaLilli Wed 03-Feb-16 20:23:04

I'm going on a city break with DH and 2yo DD in a couple of months. Upon hearing of this, a colleague told me that she'll give me a list of things she wants from said city. I said we'd only be taking a small suitcase, as I didn't want to lug a big bag around the city on our final day, so she said we'd be better off taking a big one and leaving it at the hotel or at the station. We are staying at an AirBnb, so can't leave any luggage there, and the station is at the other end of town from where we'll be staying, and I'm not going to hike all the way over there with DD in a stroller just to leave my bag. I told her this and she was a bit huffy and said she'd just ask me to get her a few things and another friend would "bring the bulk" of the stuff she wanted.

Now AIBU to think she has a cheek for just saying that without actually asking if I'd mind bringing her some stuff back? Obviously she'll give me the money and I actually don't mind picking up a few things for her but she's acting like the principle point of my holiday is to go shopping for her! I am tempted to use the MN staple of ODFOD next time she mentions it!

rookiemere Wed 03-Feb-16 20:26:43

YANBU. No harm in her asking, but at your obvious reluctance she should have left it. Tell her you'll get whatever can be bought at the airport but you can't get anything else.

SanityClause Wed 03-Feb-16 20:30:26

Oh, how annoying.

Once we were going to Turkey, and someone we barely knew asked us to bring a load of counterfeit stuff back for him. We didn't.

Just keep saying you don't want to do it, because you're not there to do shopping, you'll be an a family break.

Don't feel guilty. If she wants the stuff so badly, she can go, herself.

CallaLilli Wed 03-Feb-16 20:30:42

As I said, I'd have happily got a few things for her but it was just the way she said she'd be giving me a list that irked me. Clearly it's a rather long list if she now has to divide it up by two people! And what happened to saying "would you mind picking up X for me?" Surely that is the polite thing to do?

NotMeNotYouNotAnyone Wed 03-Feb-16 21:04:05


You've said what you're able to do, she should've left it at that

StripeyDeckchair Wed 03-Feb-16 21:06:52

YANBU in your shoes I wouldn't bring anything back for her. If she gives a list then just don't do the shopping & tell her you didn't have time - this was rare family time & that is what you focused in.

Littleallovertheshop Wed 03-Feb-16 21:09:09

YANBU. Tell her to go herself if she's so desperate.

AntiHop Wed 03-Feb-16 21:10:52

She is being very cheeky. I would not put myself out at all on holiday to do someone else's shopping.

What on earth does she want you to buy that she can't order online for herself?

NNalreadyinuse Wed 03-Feb-16 21:15:39

I wouldn't do it. You will end up feeling very resentful if you spend your time doing all her stuff to the detriment of your own plans.

Osolea Wed 03-Feb-16 21:15:45

This friend sounds very presumptuous, and is being rude with it.

I thought I was going to say YABU, as I've often picked up one or two things for people when travelling and I quite like doing it, but a list and suggestions of how you could cart all her stuff around is taking the piss.

lastnightiwenttomanderley Wed 03-Feb-16 21:16:02


Though now I am deeply intrigued by what is on her list and where the magical city where said items can be procured is.

Libbyella Wed 03-Feb-16 21:17:31

I too would bring nothing back for her. What a cheeky cow!

eddielizzard Wed 03-Feb-16 21:19:43

she is cheeky. i'd buy what was easy and leave the rest. def not your priority to do her shopping for her!

NinjaClaws Wed 03-Feb-16 21:26:35

Take the list and return empty handed saying you lost the list at the airport.

I wouldn't dream of giving a best friend my shopping list for their holiday, let alone a work colleague. Cheeky bugger!

NinaSimoneful Wed 03-Feb-16 21:43:24

Very cheeky. Are you flying? And, if so, will she be reimbursing you for the increased baggage allowance? Because it sounds like she's after a fairly substantial amount of stuff.

If not it's still pretty bloody cheeky of her to expect that you'll cart around a (potentially heavy) load of her shopping.

ImperialBlether Wed 03-Feb-16 21:46:22

She's very rude. Tell her you're going on holiday and you won't be shopping for her.

rollonthesummer Wed 03-Feb-16 21:49:09

Very rude. Say no!

sootica Wed 03-Feb-16 21:49:34

I too need to know what's on the list?

AcrossthePond55 Wed 03-Feb-16 21:50:32

I just want to know where you're going and what she wants you to bring back! I'm always looking for some good shopping and maybe it's near me. (I'm sure it's not)

<nosy cah, me>

mrsmeerkat Wed 03-Feb-16 21:55:48

I think op I would be blunt at this stage and say you are only bringing hand luggage so you can't bring her back stuff. It is a bit arrogant of her to assume you will do it

MuttonDressedAsMutton Wed 03-Feb-16 21:58:48

YANBU really - but I have a reciprocal arrangement with several friends who go to various parts of Europe - we all bring stuff back for one another but never too much and always bearing in mind that we don't take hold luggage. But a list? Cheeky mare.

Pssst. <<whispers>> What was on the list?

Donthate Wed 03-Feb-16 22:00:27

Are you going to New York?

Cachareltastic Wed 03-Feb-16 22:03:51

Just agree to it and then claim no shops sold what she wanted.

CallaLilli Wed 03-Feb-16 22:04:16

Oh nothing scandalous on the list, just European skincare products you can't get in the UK, but knowing her it would probably be the entire contents of the nearest pharmacy! I am yet to see the actual list though, shall report back when I do!

CallaLilli Wed 03-Feb-16 22:05:35

It's a specific shop she wants me to go to and tbf it's near where we are staying but she's irritated me by demanding rather than asking!

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