to have been a tiny bit judge?

(54 Posts)
FunnysInLaJardin Tue 02-Feb-16 20:06:06

DS2 is in year 1 in a small country primary school. All the parents take their children to the door of the classroom at drop off and most drive as it is a country school and most don't live in walking distance.

This morning a boy in his class was dropped by his dad over the school wall and told to jump over and run into class. His dad sat in the car and was shouting at him to get into class. The boy was faffing about and playing as little boys do and so since I was walking out I took him into class.

My question is WIBU to judge the boys dad for not parking up and walking his son into school. The boy is very young for his age and seems to be in trouble quite often and so I thought really it was the least the dad could do.

Maybe the parents are odd at our school and other parents do drop on the road and leave their DC to walk in. Perhaps we are too helicoptery?

Just interested really in other views.

DickDewy Tue 02-Feb-16 20:09:35

You know how this will go -

Perhaps the father is disabled
Perhaps the father had a sleeping baby in the car
Perhaps the son has a special need to scale a wall sans parent

Etc etc grin

ElasticPants Tue 02-Feb-16 20:13:29

Sounds like something my dh would do.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Tue 02-Feb-16 20:17:10

He asked him to climb over a wall. Did no staff member come out
Is there not an entersnce through the school yard
I'm rather confused

BlondeOnATreadmill Tue 02-Feb-16 20:18:06

Maybe he's a Hot Shot in the City and didn't have time.

Maybe you should check him out, he might be Gorgeous. And loaded. :-)

theycallmemellojello Tue 02-Feb-16 20:26:21

Well the scaling the wall thing is a bit weird! I'm presuming it was a low wall?? It sounds like the dad could see the kid entering the building from the car? If so yabu - of course it's not necessary to hold their hands across the schoolyard, they manage without you for the rest of the school day. With respect, I take it that you've never been a working parent?

FunnysInLaJardin Tue 02-Feb-16 20:26:42

Dick none of the above AFAIK and Blonde sadly not I have seen him many a time.

There is an entrance but you can't park near it as its just by the crossing. No staff came out as it was just after the start of school.

I'm certain there is a very good explanation, perhaps he was running late etc. It just made me wonder whether I was being judgey or whether this was totally normal to most right minded folk

FunnysInLaJardin Tue 02-Feb-16 20:28:35

lol they yes I've worked thought the DC's childhoods. It was a low wall so no danger. Maybe its just the parents I know then that take the DC to the door

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Tue 02-Feb-16 20:33:23

I don't see the need to walk a child into school if the child is happy to trot in by themselves, I really don't. If a child wants/needs that level of involvement from an adult then fine, but if not - and it's safe - let them get on with it is my standpoint.

I think perhaps some parents are a bit prone to over-protectiveness and they know it... so they judge. Did the boy look unhappy or unable to get into the school? I know you took him in but did he need that?

How do you know he's often in trouble?

BitOutOfPractice Tue 02-Feb-16 20:36:47

Sounds like he was in a rush. I think I'd unhoik the judgey pants and think "well everyone was fine and it's a one off so I'll keep my sticky beak out" if I were you

CocktailQueen Tue 02-Feb-16 20:38:05

Year 1? Yanbu. Too young for jumping over a wall and walking into school - especially if the dc is less sensible than some...

Owllady Tue 02-Feb-16 20:39:29

I've spoken to the dad via telepathy and he apparently did it on purpose to cause village gossip

I have to be honest, I've been tempted to send reception aged DS running into school alone when baby DS has been sleeping in the car. If the dad could see him all the way in I don't really see the problem.

MrsDeVere Tue 02-Feb-16 20:41:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

FunnysInLaJardin Tue 02-Feb-16 20:44:00

Owl that would explain it. To be fair, and as you can see theres not much to do here during t'winter.

Bit they are not really hoiked more slightly uncomfortable.

Lying no the DC was delighted I think to be left too it and was quite happy jumping in puddles

Right I have talked myself out of it and I was BU and a tad Linda Snell

Owllady Tue 02-Feb-16 20:44:21

What a silly horn popping dad grin

claraschu Tue 02-Feb-16 20:45:08

Here are some wonderful pictures of kids who have truly exciting walks to school.

www.boredpanda.com/dangerous-journey-to-school/

I think it is great if kids take themselves to school- too many of us are over protective

FunnysInLaJardin Tue 02-Feb-16 20:45:52

Yes MrsD I think thats what I did, just had a little eye roll. Waiting outside nursery and beeping is shock though!

claraschu Tue 02-Feb-16 20:48:40

www.telegraph.co.uk/travel/picturegalleries/9930291/Extreme-school-run-children-going-to-great-lengths-in-order-to-get-to-school.html?frame=2509442

More school runs

FunnysInLaJardin Tue 02-Feb-16 20:49:34

my god clara that is terrifying but prob huge fun (some of them anyway)

FunnysInLaJardin Tue 02-Feb-16 20:50:33

you are on a roll!

WelliesTheyAreWonderful Tue 02-Feb-16 20:50:35

Do people seriously walk their kids to the classrooms?! No DC of school age so never heard of this apart from on first day of school.

Owllady Tue 02-Feb-16 20:59:15

It depends on the school wellies. Most don't but mine went to one where you drop inside (open door) it's chaos tbh and loads of parents hang around trying to talk to the teacher confused

FunnysInLaJardin Tue 02-Feb-16 21:02:37

yes Owl thats what its like at our school. Plus I am cursing my title typo what with this thread trending and such like

Ditsy4 Tue 02-Feb-16 21:02:52

Year 1 we would expect them to be brought into the playground by Year 3 we would think that would be fine apart from jumping the wall which staff probably tell them not to do constantly. I had visions of it being 6 ft. Some of our parents let them scale ours at home time[ confused]
Perhaps child had been a pain getting ready and dad was running late. It was kind of you to see him in.

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