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IPlayPingPong Tue 02-Feb-16 16:13:06

I met a guy in autumn of last year; we met through OD but have friends in common, went to same university, so I don't see it strictly as an anonymous OD date.
He seemed really nice but there wasn't the whole clichéd spark, and we kind of left things as they were after a couple of meet-ups.
I've now been thinking about him more and more, and don't know why!
Is there any point dropping him a message to say hi do you think? I haven't seen anyone since and am starting to be really curious about seeing him again. I do think that was interested, although that may not still apply!!

IPlayPingPong Tue 02-Feb-16 17:01:48


Epilepsyhelp Tue 02-Feb-16 17:03:02

Certainly can't hurt to send him a message, do you think the spark feeling will have changed for you?

I can't think of a single reason not to contact him really..

FetchezLaVache Tue 02-Feb-16 17:03:59

I'd just let it go tbh. There wasn't the spark at the time; do you think it's perhaps that with hindsight, he seems the best of a bad bunch?

IPlayPingPong Tue 02-Feb-16 17:05:26


Yay! I'm just nervous it may seem a bit odd me contacting him out of the blue like this.

I'm not sure about the spark thing, but I do feel really excited about the prospect of possibly seeing him again. Would really like to at least see him again and see how things go. I definitely like him, but difficult to tell now so much time has passed

IPlayPingPong Tue 02-Feb-16 17:07:12

Fetchez - posted before I had seen your message. Don't think he's the best of a bad bunch at all because he seems like a really good guy; it was just no butterflies etc. which put me off. But the more I think about it, the less I think that is essential.

BlondeOnATreadmill Tue 02-Feb-16 17:07:31

If he was into you, he wouldn't have let things slide.

ImperialBlether Tue 02-Feb-16 17:13:30

Think of all the successful relationships where people met at work. For many of them the sparks didn't fly immediately. There's no harm in asking him if he fancies going out as friends for a while and seeing what happens.

IPlayPingPong Tue 02-Feb-16 17:26:35

Blonde - I completely agree... The thing is, he is really shy and not super experienced with girls. And he said a few times how much he enjoyed it/wanted to do things again. The momentum was a bit lost when one of us had to leave the area abruptly for a few weeks (family circumstances) and then life things got in the way; we weren't in the same place for 2 months+

VocationalGoat Tue 02-Feb-16 17:28:25

No harm in asking at all though several months have gone by and something would have happened by now if it were meant to. I've been in your shoes and on reflection, I've followed dead trails because nothing else interesting was going on. I'd even get excited about the prospect of meeting up again only to find that whatever was missing hadn't resolved itself and sadly, wasn't in my head. On the other hand, there are boatloads of wonderful, lovely people in the world and sometimes the click happens immediately or later down the road as a bond develops.

My DH was married for 12 years before we met (OK, so they divorced but that has nothing to do with what I'm about to write). He met his first wife at a dinner hosted by mutual friends. They then had a date. He found her lovely but there wasn't a spark.They left it at that. Still he hadn't forgotten her. She didn't rock his world but she had beautiful qualitie which he appreciated on a deeper level. But life was happening. He was a newly qualified GP and was focusing on his new partnership and sort of let time pass. 9 months later he contacted her. They ended up married! So it happens.

RNBrie Tue 02-Feb-16 17:28:43

Yeah just drop him a text asking how he is and if he fancies catching up some time for a drink. Say it would be nice to see him.

You have nothing to lose!!

IPlayPingPong Tue 02-Feb-16 21:19:27

Ok I think I will!

Looks like opinions are a bit divided - but you're right, nothing to lose -except my dignity if he rejects me-- grin

RNBrie Wed 03-Feb-16 11:10:45

Dignity can always be repaired with wine!

Did you text him OP?

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