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AIBU?

AIBU to want to tak about my daughter? (Trigger warning)

132 replies

Walkthroughthefire · 31/01/2016 20:18

My beautiful daughter should be turning three tomorrow.

She was born still in 2013.

I can't believe three years have passed. I feel like everyone wants me to 'shut the fuck up about the dead baby already - you have another one now.'

She was so beautiful and perfect. She had a rosebud pout, a button nose and enormous hands and feet. I was so proud when she was born, even though she was born silently. I just want the world to know she existed and was wonderful and magical. She would get really active when I took baths or listened to music - she could kick really hard. I loved being pregnant with her and am so glad I got that opportunity. I think (hope) she's made me a better person but I wish we could have kept her.

My beautiful star girl.

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HooseRice · 31/01/2016 20:19

She sounds beautiful

MissJM1 · 31/01/2016 20:20

monkeysox · 31/01/2016 20:21

Oh yanbu. You'll always remember her

kavvLar · 31/01/2016 20:21

Lovely girl. for you OP and for your little

MadameJosephine · 31/01/2016 20:21

Not even a tiny bit unreasonable

I'm so sorry you lost your beautiful little girl, never let anybody tell you to stop taking about her. You are her mother and you loved her

ghostyslovesheep · 31/01/2016 20:22

no you are not unreasonable - she sounds beautiful x

ghostyslovesheep · 31/01/2016 20:23

no you are not unreasonable - she sounds beautiful x

MrsPatrickDempsey · 31/01/2016 20:23

What was her name?

Creampastry · 31/01/2016 20:25

You will always have two children in your heart, wherever they may be.

YANBU at all.

RandomMess · 31/01/2016 20:30

YANBU.

I can only speak for myself, I don't ever forget about my friends DC that were still born, I don't ever think "shut up/get over it/move on" but I often think what can I say, there are no words.

Never forgotten, always missed, your eldest, your daughter, your firstborn.

nocoolnamesleft · 31/01/2016 20:30

Of course YANBU. All parents talk about their children. You are still her mum, and she is still you child. You have as much right and reason to talk about her as any other parent.

cornishglos · 31/01/2016 20:31

You should talk about her every day. She is your daughter.

myrtleWilson · 31/01/2016 20:33

She sounds beautiful and very much loved. It is my birthday tomorrow and I'll be sure to think of your gorgeous star girl

NinaSimoneful · 31/01/2016 20:33

I'm sure she was glad to have such a great and loving momma. I'm sorry your other child/children won't get the chance to meet their big sister but she'll always be your first child. And, although you didn't get much time with her, it was precious and special and very important.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 31/01/2016 20:33

YANBU and don't let anyone ever tell you that you are, she will always be your beautiful daughter. Much love to you

FellOutOfBedTwice · 31/01/2016 20:34

Thinking of you and your beautiful daughter

MummaV · 31/01/2016 20:34

Walkthroughthefire · 31/01/2016 20:35

Thank you for your kind words.

Her name is/was Sylvie.

I am kind of in shock that we've reached this birthday. It is surrreal, can't be real. God, I miss her. My heart aches, my body physically aches. It's easier to write this down rather than tell people. Especially as this is a anonymous forum (although, her unusal name has given me away, I don't mind)

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MarshaBrady · 31/01/2016 20:37

I'm so sorry, for beautiful Sylvie

StrawberryLeaf · 31/01/2016 20:38

Thinking of you and Sylvie (she has a beautiful name).

My daughter died 6 years ago, she died in the NICU. I know the feeling of pride in your perfect child, the child you created.

Slowlygettingthehangofthings · 31/01/2016 20:38

I am so sorry that your beautiful daughter was born sleeping. Don't let anyone tell you not to talk about your perfect angel child xx

FarrowandBallAche · 31/01/2016 20:38

Beautiful name.
I'm so sorry.
Never feel like you can't talk about her.

BifsWif · 31/01/2016 20:40

Your daughter sounds beautiful, and I love her name.

Don't ever feel you can't speak about her. You'll be in my thoughts tomorrow

Claraoswald36 · 31/01/2016 20:43

My lovely niece had a stillborn daughter in 2008. We buried her on Xmas eve. So I took dd1 to a funeral at 3 months. They were supposed to grow up together and they can't now. My niece went on to have 2 more beautiful baby boys but I look at them and think there should be 3. Part of the set will always be missing.
I don't pretend to have experienced losing my own child but I hope I can empathise a little bit

Sleepingbunnies · 31/01/2016 20:43

My niece was born sleeping and I think of her every day.

Have some for your girls special day tomorrow x

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