I'm hoping I'm not the only one who has felt like this.
When ds2 was born 7 months ago it was a wonderful, amazing time, but it also hit me really hard. I was exhausted, I was breastfeeding and if awake he just screamed when anyone but me went near him. All quite normal newborn stuff.
Actually everyone left us alone for the first couple of days, it was all "oh we won't bother you we will let you rest". At this point I was still running on adrenaline, then day 3-4 the tiredness really kicked in, so did the sore nipples, and so did the visitors, my milk, my tearfulness. All of it.
I really just didn't want to see anyone, I didn't really want anyone but me and dh holding the baby, I was really struggling with feeding by this point.
All the visitors descended on us and for the next week not a day went by without a couple of visitors. Some of them really overstayed their welcome. One relative was still there at 11pm.
Everyone wanted a go at holding the baby, they all left stinking horrible perfume smells overpowering the brands new baby smell. They all said "oh he's so good, he's so content" as they held him while he slept. No one lifted a finger to so much as make me or dh a drink. Then when the baby started to wake up the all made a sharp exit.
Mil had organised a party to celebrate and wanted us to go a week in.
I pretty much missed out on all the sleepy cuddles or any chance to nap because of all the visitors. I didn't want to seem rude but also couldn't have slept without everyone downstairs. I even had visitors when I had a midwife helping me with breastfeeding positions fgs.
I really wish I'd been more assertive, I remember the midwife saying how I'd never get that time back and she was so right.
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Pyjamaramadrama · 29/01/2016 14:40
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