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freakingthefreakout Fri 29-Jan-16 10:00:36

Have nc'd for this as quite a lot of detail that could out me if anyone I know in RL reads this.

The background: I suffer with severe PCOS - I pretty much never ovulated if left to my own devices. DH has a low sperm count and those he does have don't move very fast. The upshot was we needed ICSI IVF to conceive and, I am happy to say, have a beautiful DS.

After 4 years of treatment, an awful pregnancy, pre-eclampsia, a traumatic birth, severe PND and advancing years we decided that our family was complete with our wonderful boy and so didn't have any further rounds of IVF. Just under a year ago I had a mirena fitted, not for contraceptive purposes - not really necessary! - but on advice to try and get my hormones to behave. In November last year I had to visit the GP for what turned out to be horrendous thrush and as part of the exam she confirmed that the mirena was still in place.

So why, yesterday, did I feel what I remember as being the exact same feeling as when I first felt DS move? It's just above my pubic bone and is that fluttery / popcorn popping type of feeling. I had a period at Christmas and haven't had any symptoms - no sickness, boobs not sore or bigger. I have put on a bit of weight but I broke my foot just before Christmas and so haven't done any exercise for about 6 weeks.

Because of the foot I am having to wait for my Tesco delivery at 4 for a test to arrive - I can't drive to get one and I don't really want to ask anyone.

I am totally freaking out because, on the basis that to feel movement I must be at least 12 weeks, during that time I have had an xray, an mri, have drunk like a fish, smoked the odd ciggy, have had thrush treatment twice, oh and there's the mirena too. I am terrified about what I might have done to the baby, if indeed there is one in there....

So please talk some sense into me and keep me sane until I can test - I can't be pregnant, can I?????

Ridingthegravytrain Fri 29-Jan-16 10:08:41

I get that sensation regularly since having children. And I'm certainly not pregnant. It's pretty common and just something bowel related

AdriftOnMemoryBliss Fri 29-Jan-16 10:10:51

could indeed be digestive. i get similar sensations. smile

originalusernamefail Fri 29-Jan-16 10:10:57

Like riding I've had that feeling on and off since DS bit of a head wreck though!

BathshebaDarkstone Fri 29-Jan-16 10:12:29

Same here and I can't be pregnant. winechocolate

freakingthefreakout Fri 29-Jan-16 10:14:19

Thank you ladies - good to know I'm not the only one. It is a total head wreck (love that phrase) but am going to cling on to it being my bowels!

Katenka Fri 29-Jan-16 10:14:54

I have done 5 pregnant test since having my first, 11 years ago, prompted by that feeling.

Everytime I felt like I did when I was pg. sore boobs, popping feeling etc.
Just like a baby kicking.

I wasn't pregnant any of those times and when I fell pg with ds I didn't notice and found out at 10 weeks.

I also have pcos and notice that my boobs and stuff are worse the longer it is since I had a period

SummerHouse Fri 29-Jan-16 10:16:11

Yes! I got that fluttering. Sent into wild panic. I was in no way whatsoever pregnant. So offering a hand to hold.

I also didn't know I was pregnant when I was for about 8 weeks. Drank most nights and smoked. I was utterly horrified at having harmed what turned out to be my perfect baby.

BernardsarenotalwaysSaints Fri 29-Jan-16 10:16:16

Most likely just a phantom kick (I get them, presumably had a similar feeling before dcs too just didn't notice). Do do a test to reassure yourself though.

freakingthefreakout Fri 29-Jan-16 10:19:51

Oh you are all lovely...I am feeling a bit calmer now thanks to you. Just waiting for the poster who comes along and tells the story of how she fell pregnant in exactly these circumstances!!!

heavens2betsy Fri 29-Jan-16 10:22:57

13 years since I was last pg and I felt that feeling the other day. Definitely not pg as DP has had a vasectomy and I have since got my period but it bought back lovely memories and made me a bit wistful.

GloGirl Fri 29-Jan-16 10:24:51

I had that sensation and thought I must be 4-5 months pregnant. Took and a test and it was positive shock

Had a scan and actually when I felt it the bump was only 5 weeks and no way had caused that sensation.

Have had it since giving birth AGAIN and thank fuck it was a week after a heavy heavy period so I knew I wasn't pregnant.

It was unmistably a baby squirming around, except it definitely isn't! Goodness knows what has been causing it.

CerseiHeartsJaime4ever Fri 29-Jan-16 10:28:35

I have actually seen my tummy pop out from "kicks" since having the DC. It was wind confused

AnUtterIdiot Fri 29-Jan-16 10:29:05

PS just to reassure you, OP, what you've described in terms of lifestyle is about on a par with the typical 70s lifestyle - my mother was advised when pregnant to limit herself to 2 drinks a day and no more than 10 cigarettes...

WorraLiberty Fri 29-Jan-16 10:37:59

I think this thread is the last thing you need to be honest.

Try to occupy your mind with something else until the test arrives?

freakingthefreakout Fri 29-Jan-16 10:46:44

Thinking about it, AnUtter, as a child of the 70s I think my Mum took a similar approach and I turned out ok(ish).

Why are we not told about such things as phantom kicks and the fact that wind can feel like baby movements? Thank god for MN, the source of all knowledge. Well MN and Google from which I have gleaned that it may also be a tapeworm or similar parasite....

SummerHouse Fri 29-Jan-16 11:00:18

grin freaking

SummerHouse Fri 29-Jan-16 11:02:17

Without MN and Dr Google I would never have known about what beetroot can do to make trips to the toilet more colourful...

EponasWildDaughter Fri 29-Jan-16 11:10:29

After having DD1 i was amazed to learn that most of the many everyday twitches and flutterings that go on in our stomachs feel just the same as the early days of a baby moving about.

When i feel them (when not pregnant) they makes me smile tbh smile

freakingthefreakout Fri 29-Jan-16 11:15:19

Wise words, Worra...or are you actually my boss telling me to get on with some work!?!

WorraLiberty Fri 29-Jan-16 11:33:52

Busted! shock blush

freakingthefreakout Fri 29-Jan-16 11:40:41


Katenka Fri 29-Jan-16 14:10:20

I have actually seen my tummy pop out from "kicks" since having the DC.

Yep you could see my stomach move. Dh could see it too. Wasn't pregnant

Snozberry Fri 29-Jan-16 14:15:03

I think you get these sensations before pregnancy but don't notice them, it's just that your brain now automatically puts them into the baby category.

freakingthefreakout Fri 29-Jan-16 14:26:48

So the past two weeks the Tesco man has called at 2.30 saying he's round the corner and could he deliver early. The week that I am actually at home and desperate to get my hands on my shopping not a peep from him angry

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