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Aibu to carry on with my son and let her carry on with hers

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Tamponlady Thu 28-Jan-16 19:48:33

Was at play group today and was talking to another mum about our respective year 11 kids

I was talking about how much it's cost me for a suit so did could attend various interviews at collages and apperterships ect

She then said to me I wouldn't bother if I were you I am sending mine in jeans shock

I not sure what school her child attends but my son have had it drummed into them that it's not just about your grades it's about how you preset at the interviews and espically the aperntership interviews

They also have been told they will look at attendance and behaviour and outside interests

And they have been told if all things being equal grades that it if they only thing that sets you apart is how well turned out you are then that can't be a bad thing and it may give you the edge he's wanting to do engineering and it's very competitive

And to be honest even if ds hadn't been told this by the school I would want him to be smart and show to the interviewers that he takes his education seriously

Not sure if they would think that if you turned up in jeans and Air Force ones

I didn't even bother to argue


PollyPocket100 Thu 28-Jan-16 19:51:24

IMO a suit is pretty OTT for a college interview. I'm sure others will feel differently though.

bornwithaplasticspoon Thu 28-Jan-16 19:53:02

My dc's went to college interviews in their school uniform.

AlwaysHopeful1 Thu 28-Jan-16 19:53:22

i didn't even bother to argue

Why did you want an argument? I also think the suit is ott. Why be so judge and all shock?
How do you know it's not a pair of black jeans and a formal shirt?

MrsJayy Thu 28-Jan-16 19:53:40

My DDS went to college interview in black Jean s and smart tops job interview s were a bit different I guess its each to their own smart doesn't always mean a suit

Tamponlady Thu 28-Jan-16 19:54:47

He also has apperntship interviews and tbh they are pretty much job interviews

PuntasticUsername Thu 28-Jan-16 19:56:15

Tbh I'm not sure why you've posted here. You seem perfectly happy with your approach; she is happy with hers; no one is getting hurt, so what's the big deal?

mumeeee Thu 28-Jan-16 19:56:43

A suit for a college interview is way over the top. My DDs just went in school uniform.

MrsJayy Thu 28-Jan-16 19:57:04

Yeah a suit or smart proper trousers for that

Tamponlady Thu 28-Jan-16 19:57:46


She was telling me not to borther I explained why I thought it was important

She still was saying don't borther I couldn't be arse to continue with why I felt I thought I was important she thought I was crazy

AlwaysHopeful1 Thu 28-Jan-16 19:58:32

Ok so you both have your different opinions. Not sure what else.

RB68 Thu 28-Jan-16 19:59:13

I think it depends what they want to do - business, marketing, related subj prob suit but media and fashion something else

PollyPocket100 Thu 28-Jan-16 20:00:33

What would your DS like to wear?

gamerchick Thu 28-Jan-16 20:02:01

Neither of you are wrong. But you don't have to spend a fortune on a suit at that age, apprenticeship or not. A smart pair of strides and a nice shirt does.

Cheby Thu 28-Jan-16 20:02:42

Two good friends of mine are 6th form teachers. They do college application interviews every year, and every year they get kids turning up in jeans and trainers. It is really frowned upon. All they need to do is wear school uniform. But they also wouldn't say a suit was over the top, that would be fine too. But smart school uniform is perfectly acceptable.

Tamponlady Thu 28-Jan-16 20:02:44

Prolly poker

I think ds is going for the smart causal look

I think this is ok he still looks trendy but smart

Tamponlady Thu 28-Jan-16 20:05:03

Game chick

Sadly my son is 6 ft 3 so buying a suit even just a jacket that will fit is a pipe dream even his shoes I am having to order in 12:5

I was hoping to get somthing in the sales but alas most shops only have up to size 11

Tamponlady Thu 28-Jan-16 20:05:24

Lol no sun glasses

PollyPocket100 Thu 28-Jan-16 20:06:14

In that case I'd let him choose. Always best to feel happy and comfortable in interview situations (within reason of course!).

LordOfMisrule Thu 28-Jan-16 20:07:02

Mine went in smart casuals or school uniform.

Hamiltoes Thu 28-Jan-16 20:07:05

Sorry I don't think I agree with you.

I went for a higher apprenticeship interview for a high-tech engineering company and can remember feeling like an idiot in my primark jeans and black cardigan and shoes falling off my feet, next to suits and briefcases.

I got the job because I showed a real interest and passion for engineering, and because my confidence speaks louder than my clothes.

Nowadays I wouldn't dream of going for an interview looking anything less than highly polished.. But most people interviewing teenagers are smart enough to know that how much money their parents spend clothing them is NOT a true reflection of the candidates character.

Tamponlady Thu 28-Jan-16 20:07:17

This ladies this is the look

The 6formers at my sons school have to dress smartly so This is how they all dresss he likes this look a lot

Tamponlady Thu 28-Jan-16 20:09:45

I no many go in there school uniform but tbh because he's so massive is ill fitting and he looks a bit scuffy in to he's jacket is very short in the arms but they insist they were the school blazer

So I pd would rather buy somthing that fits that he looks OK in

Katenka Thu 28-Jan-16 20:10:51

So you were going on about how much you were spending on clothes for interview and she didn't see the need.

So what?

She disagreed with you. You were discussing clothes, she had an opinion.

Fwiw dds school has a sixth for where they have to wear suits. None look like that. But as long as he is comfortable that's fine.

I wouldn't make dd wear a suit for an interview. Things have changed slightly

FrozenPonds Thu 28-Jan-16 20:11:17

Crikey, the guys in that photo look as though they got dressed with their eyes shut. confused

School uniform or smart casual is usual for college courses.

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