OK there is loads of backstory to this but I just want to try to get a measure on this one particular issue in isolation.
Family member and his DW have one child. We are not very close (backstory!) but have sporadic contact mostly via email and occasional call.
They experienced a miscarriage whilst TTC their second child. My DH and I have a DS who was 6 months at time this happened (their own first child was 1). Family member asked that we did not send updates or pictures about our DS as it was upsetting for his DW. I complied and figured I would wait until I was asked about DS again before I offered anything up. This was about a year ago and I have not been asked about him once since and contact has been minimal.
I understand they could have had further losses in that time and people grieve in their own way and in their own time.
When I write it down like that it seems obvious I am BU. But because of the backstory I can't help feeling it was a convenient excuse to cut contact with us.
It would feel more understandable if they were TTC their first, or we had a newborn. But we are now both parents to toddlers, and it seems strange to not be able to share that experience.
I don't know, it's a sad situation all round.
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Is this reasonable (regarding miscarriage and other people's babies)
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Plateofcrumbs · 28/01/2016 17:11
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