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To ignore this person and think im now being stalked?

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rudolphlosthisslipper Wed 27-Jan-16 20:43:58

Fell out with a friend a couple of weeks ago. Wont go into details but it happened. She let me down when I needed her and decided I didnt need her in my life anymore.

She owed me some money so she had to come and give it to me at work. I told her to post it under the door, but claimed she couldnt so had to open the door and speak to her. She got upset and I wanted her out of the way so told her I would contact her in a few days.

Blocked her number. Gave her number to my sister in case I needed it for whatever reason in the future and she texted her.

I now keep getting texts off random numbers asking why I wont speak to her and keeps asking me to forgive her. I keep blocking her but she keeps messaging me. And im getting silent phone calls.

AIBU?

Seriouslyffs Wed 27-Jan-16 20:49:21

What's your question?
It all sounds very dramatic.

CallieTorres Wed 27-Jan-16 20:51:04

Need more details before we can judge for you

passmethewineplease Wed 27-Jan-16 20:51:27

She does sound persistent.

Is there no going back?

wowfudge Wed 27-Jan-16 20:51:41

Sounds pretty harsh too. Without knowing the details it's impossible to say. It sounds as though you have really given her the cold shoulder with no explanation and she's upset because of that.

rudolphlosthisslipper Wed 27-Jan-16 20:59:16

I cant go into details as it will probably out me as I know a few people who are on here and know about the situation. She has let me down before though and she seems to think she can do things to make it up to me and then let me down again. Im talking i get 3/4 texts a day. 7 missed calls today and 2 texts.

Seriouslyffs Wed 27-Jan-16 21:01:44

Drama llama.
You, that is. You know friends of hers are on here and you're vagueb.

rudolphlosthisslipper Wed 27-Jan-16 21:08:40

Is that reallly not unreasonable? Bit odd, no?

CallieTorres Wed 27-Jan-16 21:18:03

did she snub you at the school gates?

did she steal your kittens and serve them up to you for lunch?

seriously, this is as bad as one of those vague facebook statuses

"OMG i cant believe that happened"

"whats up hun?"

"I'll pm you"

rudolphlosthisslipper Wed 27-Jan-16 21:33:31

Someone lets you down 3 times, then calls you 7 times in one day. Sends countless texts. Is someone saying thats normal confused

Gliblet Wed 27-Jan-16 21:38:42

From what I can see you've just refused to face her/talk to her, yes? If she hasn't done anything that makes her a danger to you then would it not just be easier to either have one face to face conversation with her (or at least one phone conversation) and explain why you feel hurt and that you won't be in touch with her any more?

Gobbolino6 Wed 27-Jan-16 21:39:41

No, it's not normal, but your behaviour also sounds a bit odd. Perhaps I'm misunderstanding your post. Why give your sister her number? Could you not just have written it down? Why did your sister text her?

Putting an envelope under the door? Someone would have to have REALLY treated me or mine appallingly before I considered such a dramatic response.

What the hell did she do?

SaucyJack Wed 27-Jan-16 21:39:42

Depends what one considers a let-down.

She might be selfish and/or a flake, or you might be a diva with too-high expectations.

Not enough info to make the call from your posts so far, soz.

Thisismyfirsttime Wed 27-Jan-16 21:40:24

You're being too vague for anyone to form an opinion. What did she do? If you can't say how can anyone tell you how to go forward?

Arfarfanarf Wed 27-Jan-16 21:44:46

You have the right to say to someone that you dont want them in your life.
You dont owe someone a place in your life.
People dont make such drastic decisions lightly and i am sure that you have good reason for making the choice that you have made.

If you havent already, then be very clear with her that you dont want further contact.

Sunnybitch Wed 27-Jan-16 21:44:52

Spot on callie what's the odds op posts an update of what she did once enough people have begged to know hmm

Katenka Wed 27-Jan-16 21:47:20

You aren't being stalked. You could stretch it and say you are being harassed. But that would be more than one day of it happening.

It's impossible to tell which of you is unreasonable

rudolphlosthisslipper Wed 27-Jan-16 21:50:57

She did something once, gave her another 2 chances and she let me down which could of cost me my job. I cant go into anymore detail than that.

rudolphlosthisslipper Wed 27-Jan-16 21:51:28

It is more than one day Katenka. Its been happening for a month.

VodkaJelly Wed 27-Jan-16 21:57:36

It doesn't matter what she has done, if you feel that she has let you down then you have every right to cut her from your life. Is changing your phone number an option?

msgrinch Wed 27-Jan-16 22:03:00

You both need to grow up.

CaptainCrunch Wed 27-Jan-16 22:08:19

You could talk to each other face to face like adults and either try and resolve it or tell her the friendship is over and you want to cut contact. All this vagueness doesn't help your cause op.

WhereYouLeftIt Wed 27-Jan-16 22:19:02

"Blocked her number. Gave her number to my sister in case I needed it for whatever reason in the future and she texted her."
I'm confused. Who texted who? Your sister texted ex-friend, or vice versa? And why did one text the other?

"I now keep getting texts off random numbers asking why I wont speak to her and keeps asking me to forgive her. I keep blocking her but she keeps messaging me. And im getting silent phone calls."
I see no reason to not contact her by text or email to say 'I don't want to speak to you because of XYZ, and I don't want you to contact me again'. Because you did tell her that "I would contact her in a few days". So just get on with it and get it over with. Sheesh.

Reluctant2ndtimer Wed 27-Jan-16 22:52:29

I don't see any real problem in what you've done. You are under no obligation whatsoever to continue in a relationship with anyone if you don't want to. It might be worth sending her an email telling her to leave you alone but you certainly don't owe her anything confused
I cut off a crap friend for similar reasons but I sent her an email stating exactly why I didn't want to be friends anymore and to be honest, I kind of wish I hadn't bothered with the detail. It just made me feel shit really. I wish I'd just said I'm don't want to be friends now, and left it at that. I think you should just do something like that. Face to face confrontation is hard for lots of people so why put yourself through it?

Natkingcole9 Wed 27-Jan-16 22:58:16

Weird post?? hmm

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