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MrsA2015 Wed 27-Jan-16 13:06:20

Well not just that, but all food!

DD is 3 months and EBF at the moment and I'm fine with it but see no harm in switching to formulate if need be. But I'm sick to death of hearing "oh she's hungry for something else give her a little taste" I've had this stupid damn advice since the day she was born almost!!!!!! Just because she's started chewing her hands it's apparently a sign to shove a lamb chop down her throat. FFS! I'M GOING TO WEAN HER WHEN SHE'S OLD ENOUGH! had it up to here now, she's absolutely fine and putting on weight as she should and is clearly content with BFing . Can't even leave her with anybody inlaws/DHsfriend for a while to shower or have a sleep because I'm likely to hear " oh she loved a taste of cream/butter/jam". Just Arghhh!

And I know in "other countries they are on solids from really early stop bring precious" I couldn't give a hoot! There are guidelines for a reason!

angry

Constantly on edge now if feeding around these people.

goodnightdarthvader1 Wed 27-Jan-16 13:08:02

6 months is the advice, 4 months if she's showing signs (eating hands isn't one of them, as far as I know). Tell them to bog off.

BumWad Wed 27-Jan-16 13:09:55

good current guidelines is 6 months not 4

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore Wed 27-Jan-16 13:14:27

I was the only person I know who actually waited until 6 months to start solids. I know every baby is different but I just followed the guidelines because I think they are there for a reason!

goodnightdarthvader1 Wed 27-Jan-16 13:18:13

Bum, I stand corrected. Seen a few bits and pieces about weaning at 4 months, but you're quite right, NHS guidelines say 6 months.

Pyjamaramadrama Wed 27-Jan-16 13:19:03

Oh it's so annoying. People were obsessed I never heard the end of it with either of mine.

People actually got in a real huff about it.

The other thing is, aside from the health benefits of waiting, weaning is a faff so why rush into it if the baby is ok with milk.

StarlingMurmuration Wed 27-Jan-16 13:21:11

YANBU OP. At paediatrician advice, I started my CMPA DS at 5 months, and I really think he wasn't ready - if we have another, I'll be waiting til 6 months, definitely.

Diddlydokey Wed 27-Jan-16 13:24:16

Why the rush? It's a faff and it's messy. Frankly, I'm too lazy.

Just milk is sooo much easier.

AustinAmbassadorYReg Wed 27-Jan-16 13:27:21

I would be livid. No-one has the right to feed your baby anything other than what you decide is best for her, especially at that age. What if she had an allergy or intolerance no-one knew about yet?

rageagainsttheBIL Wed 27-Jan-16 13:28:14

I was the only person I know who actually waited until 6 months to start solids. Really? I'd say about 60-70% of people I know waited until 6 months or pretty close, like 5.5 months.

Although I caught MIL giving DS1 a "taste" of her G&T before he'd had any food... angry

MintSource Wed 27-Jan-16 13:28:22

DS was six months and he's a fine, healthy toddler.

It's no one else's business. I have seen similar threads on here from people under pressure, usually from parents or in-laws who want to be the ones to give them first tastes. In some cases mums have left LO with MIL and returned to find they have given them chocolate at four months. shock

WorraLiberty Wed 27-Jan-16 13:29:02

Try not to let it make you so angry.

Parenthood means being given lots of 'helpful' advice, sometimes by complete strangers.

So get used to it, learn to smile and nod.

At the end of the day, they only have yours/your child's interests at heart no matter how misguided they are.

bumbleymummy Wed 27-Jan-16 13:29:28

I don't understand the urgency to feed babies solids either. We waited until 6 months with ours and even then they weren't that interested in food. Milk was still their main source of nutrition.

LorelaiVictoriaGilmore Wed 27-Jan-16 13:30:35

All my NCT lot introduced solids between 4 and 5 months. All said either that their baby seemed hungry or that they were trying to improve night time sleeping. Admittedly I've only got maybe 8 or 9 'mummy' friends but none waited until 6 months.

Finola1step Wed 27-Jan-16 13:30:36

Stick to your guns. You are absolutely right.

FWIW, ds was ebf for 2 months then mixed fed until about 24 weeks. He was a big lad (and 2 weeks late) and took to solids really quickly.

DD was also ebf for months and the mix fed until 26 weeks, possibly 27. Another chunky baby. No problems with solids.

They are now 7 and 5. Fit as fiddles, no food issues.

YANBU.

Fluffycloudland77 Wed 27-Jan-16 13:31:09

rageagainsttheBIL

She should have given him some food first to soak the booze up wink

SarahJG123 Wed 27-Jan-16 13:33:24

Every child is different, you know your child best and so do what you think is best. If she starts becoming unsettled and waking more in the night then that is probably a sign she is hungry and you can either BF her more of start to add a few solids (pureed food) to her diet. Just go with her, my boys were both really greedy and I had to wean them at 4 months (They are 11 and 12 now) but then the advice was slightly different. Just don't worry what other people say - you never get so much well meaning advice as when you are pregnant or have an infant!! Just take what you like and ignore the rest! Remember your DD is unique and will go at her own pace, not yours or anyone elses!
Have fun though weaning's great when they try new flavours and pull faces!

Enkopkaffetak Wed 27-Jan-16 13:34:30

my 12 ,14 and 16 year old were all weaned at 6 months. the 12 year old is the only one where that was the advice to do. These comments were constant and I was viewed weird and unreasonable. Yes it was bloody annoying. No I don't regret it going back. especially not with DS who has some food irritants no knowing what damage it could have done had we weaned early.

I also didnt allow most nuts until age 5 due chocking issues. my mother truly felt that I had lost the plot and gloated when dd1 age 3 had eaten cake with nuts in.. " but she is fine your worrying about nothing" Err no I am not mother she didn;t choke that time but she could another and errrr MY child MY rules..

TreadSoftlyOnMyDreams Wed 27-Jan-16 13:34:46

Then avoid them.

ricketytickety Wed 27-Jan-16 13:35:06

Who's saying this to you? Can you hand them the weaning leaflet from the health visitors?

Naicecuppatea Wed 27-Jan-16 13:35:21

I don't understand this either. Weaning is no big deal, is messy and creates more work, why do people get so excited and opinionated about it and why rush it?

HairySubject Wed 27-Jan-16 13:35:49

I also don't know anyone that waited until 6 months. I let DS have some broccoli from Christmas dinner at 5.5 months but I was under a lot of pressure from 3 months plus to give a little bit of something, poor baby must be starving blah blah blah.

Then I had grief because we started straight on to solids and again he isn't eating much he must be hungry.

DS didn't show all that much interest in food until he started nursery at 10 months, until then he was breast feeding on demand and took most of his calories that was. He carried on breast feeding until 2.5 but the balance slowly shifted from milk to food very gradually.

bakeoffcake Wed 27-Jan-16 13:36:37

Just remember you are in charge, it's your child, you make the decisions.

When anyone makes a comment just say "no, that won't be happening until I and the NHS guidelines believe she is ready"

Rinceoir Wed 27-Jan-16 13:37:12

I was lucky in this side of things- firstly I live far from most of my family and friends so could do our own thing. Secondly my mum slavishly followed all her own mothers advice about babies- which unusually was to keep them on milk only until at least 6 months and only to give solids when they were sitting and grabbing. at food. My gran had her babies in the late 40s-early 60s and would have followed her own mothers advice. So she thought I was following her advice and was thrilled.

Rinceoir Wed 27-Jan-16 13:38:35

My DD is another who had no interest in solids by the way, I hated weaning. Wouldn't subject myself to the stress earlier than needed!

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