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Cutecat78 Sun 24-Jan-16 18:37:37

My 13 yr old DS has ordered a book from Amazon. His friend from school said it was good.

It's this

AIBU to want to make him return it?

QOD Sun 24-Jan-16 18:39:50

I wouldn't worry about it. He'll potentially be arrested and then it wouldn't be your worry.
I'm assuming this is a "joke" but yeah. Be concerned.

MajesticSeaFlapFlap Sun 24-Jan-16 18:40:47


theycallmemellojello Sun 24-Jan-16 18:41:09

It's a tough one. It could be just teenage boys trying to be tough. But you do need to keep an eye on him. I think that making him return it might be the wrong choice, as you can get this kind of info online I'm sure and you don't want to just force him into secrecy. I think you do need to talk about it though. How is he generally - is he happy, social etc?

Cutecat78 Sun 24-Jan-16 18:41:33

This is not a "joke" no. hmm

I had never heard of it I am surprised you are allowed to buy it.

Oysterbabe Sun 24-Jan-16 18:42:28

I'd be returning it.

MajesticSeaFlapFlap Sun 24-Jan-16 18:42:56

Oh I cut off my message blush

If it's available to buy for £13 it shouldn't be too bad surely?

theycallmemellojello Sun 24-Jan-16 18:44:02

Can you snoop on his browsing history? Not ideal I know but it's what I'd do in the circumstances. Honestly, if I was worried I would probably make him go online in shared parts of the house only.

MajesticSeaFlapFlap Sun 24-Jan-16 18:44:10

Looking. At the reviews it seems to be a censored version

Birdsgottafly Sun 24-Jan-16 18:46:08

I'd worry more that your 13 year old has unsupervised access to the Internet and spending money, how did he pay for it?

Cutecat78 Sun 24-Jan-16 18:46:35

He has Aspergers he is very high achieving.

I am not massively into censorship but my OH is in the forces blush

theycallmemellojello Sun 24-Jan-16 18:46:48

That's hardly the point though Majestic - if he wants to find this kind of information then he will be able to if he puts his mind to it. The question is why he wants to know.

theycallmemellojello Sun 24-Jan-16 18:47:59

I think you need to talk through explicitly what the consequences of bomb-making etc would be. Not an easy conversation to have I know, but better than him going deeper.

Cutecat78 Sun 24-Jan-16 18:48:17

Yes my 13 year old has unsupervised access to Amazon hmm

He had a voucher for Christmas.

TondelayaDellaVentamiglia Sun 24-Jan-16 18:56:56

having the book on the shelf aside, do you suppose he is being set up by the aforementioned friend?

I'd have a stern word with him, and maybe a word at this a real friend or a hanger on?

Crispbutty Sun 24-Jan-16 18:58:23

I would be binning it immediately. A 13yo is easily influenced and often bloody reckless without the maturity to understand the consequences.

LBOCS2 Sun 24-Jan-16 18:59:51

Pretty much of my male friends had this book as a teenager.

They spent a long time trying to blow holes in their parents' lawns. And various other slightly delinquent activities. Mostly they failed but it kept them busy! And they are all normal adults with proper jobs and homes and families now.

I wouldn't worry too much OP. I think it's a teenage boy thing.

JenniferClarissa Sun 24-Jan-16 19:15:09

I am fairly sure DS1 had this book at about that age. He's a fine upstanding member of society, as LBOCS2 says, it was just a teenage boy thing in our household, one step along from "The Dangerous Book for Boys" smile

Gobbolino6 Sun 24-Jan-16 19:16:11

It's rather a popular book these days, so I wouldn't freak out unless there are other concerns.

Cutecat78 Sun 24-Jan-16 19:20:11

Phew - I am freakung out slightly less now.

His dad called him and had a chat and he thinks it just a teenage boy thing...,

MessedUpWheelieBin Sun 24-Jan-16 19:23:44

There's nothing wrong with the contents of the book that I can remember, (I read it many moons ago) it's what you do with it, and other people's fear of individuals having it that bring problems.

If he's a high achiever with ASD then he's more than capable of learning all the chemistry required to create many dangerous things without reading it, so really the issue's about absorbing social responsibility and morality, and being aware of others who might want him to be a front for their curiosity.

Banning knowledge doesn't generally stop the curious.

Doublebubblebubble Sun 24-Jan-16 19:25:22

Well considering it has a recipe for pipe bombs etc. I would be concerned - I'm fairly sure it is mentioned in"bowling for columbine" and all the boys who had it were either arrested or put on a list (its been a long time since I've seen it) its definitely not mien kampf but I think its certainly not a good book to have. Surprised amazon even sell it mind you it is amazon

Doublebubblebubble Sun 24-Jan-16 19:26:09

^but that's just me x

dontrunwithscissors Sun 24-Jan-16 19:37:40

You need to understand the history of it. It was 1971. American society was full of pissed off leftists who had come to the conclusion that the only way to get rid of the terroristic/racist/warmongering government was to start a revolution. There were numerous publications with instructions for making Molotov cocktails.

LadyStoicIsBack Sun 24-Jan-16 19:39:24

If it's available to buy for £13 it shouldn't be too bad surely?

Nods slowly at Majestic

You're right dear, anything under £50 on bomb-making et al is absolutely fine.... hmm

OP IME 13 year old boys are pretty suggestible so unsurprised he bought it after his 'friend' recommended it. I would though be having very serious conversations with him about why he is interested and does he 'get' how [can't find right word] xxxx it is.

Def a vote for sending it back, and a confused to those expressing surprise your child has access to.... Amazon. Porn hub, nope; Amazon, pretty normal IME confused

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