Am I being precious or was this mum an arse?

[Coffeecreamers]

My DD 7 has poor motor skills, can't ride a bike to save her life and won't try many physical activities because she is embarrassed that she is not good at them. However, she is good at riding a scooter and think she has a sense of pride travelling to school on it because it is the one thing she can do.

Yesterday, she rode in as normal and going up a steep hill so was working harder than normal and I heard a little girl a couple of years below walking with her mum saying 'she is really not good at riding a scooter is she, mummy?' Her mum replied ' No, Tabitha you are MUCH better at riding your scooter than that her aren't you? and then continued to discuss why Tabitha was much better on the scooter than my dd. I just upped my pace because I couldn't bear dd to hear them and thankfully she didn't.

To be fair, the other mum would have had no idea my dd has problems as she looks completely average, was probably just building her own child's confidence and she wasn't saying it for my dd to hear but if my nt child had said that about anybody, I would have told them it wasn't nice and to be quiet. I would say it wasn't kind to tell others they are not so good at things whilst boasting how good you are. I felt like catching up with her after drop off and telling her she was a complete arsehole for saying that in earshot of my dd incase she heard but didn't obviously. I'm beginning to think I am precious. But both my kids are complete pushovers with other children too. Starting to think maybe we need to toughen up?

[NattyNatural]

Mother sounds like an arsehole. Also she is making it acceptable to her daughter to be one to

[ghostyslovesheep]

yanbu I don't think - I hate parents who boost their own child by belittling others

My response would have been to say to Tabitha - 'Darling we can't all be great at everything - maybe that little girl hasn't had as much practice as you - but it's a bit rude to point it out - oh look a dog'

[Vaginaaa]

She was an arse. You don't build someone's confidence by putting someone else down. You're definitely not being precious!

[InspectorMontalbano]

Don't worry about it. Raising your child to be kind is far more important than scooter skills

[AlwaysHopeful1]

It sounds like the mum was just trying to agree/encourage her Younger dd. It was absolutely nothing personal against you. It would have been wrong to have had words with her. Sorry about your dd, but doesn't sound like she did anything wrong.

[katienana]

I would have loudly said "you are such a nice kind girl dd what a shame there are some rude mean children who haven't been taught good manners like you".
I probably wouldn't have, actually, but I'd have had a good think about it.

[CaptainCrunch]

I vote arse.

[crispytruffle]

The mum was being an arse!

[CakeFail]

Another vote for arse.

[CocktailQueen]

Arse. You don't praise your dc by encouraging them to criticise other dc! Horrible.

[hazeyjane]

As Vaginaa said, you don't boost someone up by putting someone else down.

We should teach our children to be kind, belittling someones ability isn't kind.

[plantsitter]

Arse.

[BanningTheWordNaice]

:O she was an arse. You can tell your kids they're good at doing something without explaining why someone else is bad at something.

[MammaTJ]

A normal response would have been 'Tabitha, she might be better at reading than you, we are all good at different things'.

She was a superior mum, that annoying breed that should not perhaps be allowed to breed!

She was an arse!! YANBU!! Not at all!

[Leelu6]

YANBU, but how do you know Tabitha is NT? Just asking because you said you would have pulled your child up on it, had she been NT.

[cuntycowfacemonkey]

She was a twat.

[AlwaysHopeful1]

and then continued to discuss why Tabitha was much better on the scooter than my dd

sorry op I completely missed this part. Just read it as she's encouraging her dd. I change to her being an arse.

[Scarydinosaurs]

Arse. And it's perpetuating a cycle of arse.

[Soooosie]

The mother should have said 'oh Tabitha different petiole are good at different things'

You could have said 'nobody likes a show off!'

[BaronessBomburst]

Another arse vote.

[JenEric]

Yep arse

[Twowrongsdontmakearight]

Yup. Complete arse.

[eastwest]

You are not precious. you are a normal person and she is extremely rude and selfish - and teaching her child to be so too!

[NoMoreGrimble]

Total arsee.

[HoneyDragon]

The mother was a massive dick. Hopefully she's such a massive dick she is one of the massively wanky parents who ride the child's scooter home from school in a hair swishy "I'm soooooooo Young at heart and fabulous" way and does one two many hair swishes and steers herself into a small pothole resulting in a slightly painful somersault into dog poo.