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AIBU to throw a moody because my DH got me a top of the range netbook?

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Notsobadpharma Fri 22-Jan-16 22:58:59

Sounds terribly ungrateful, I know even as I read it but can I explain before I am condemned.
I have a cursed history with laptops and tablets so when I get one that survives and I like it I will do whatever it takes to keep the wretched thing. I don't care what operating system is on it, if I find it easy to work with then woe betide the the person who decides that my laptop is obsolete.
My Uni decided that and it was decided that I would be issued with a brand spanking new laptop....I was rather glad when this didn't happen.
At Christmas I relented to my rather large laptop being replaced by one of Dell's ultraportable models - cracking, loved it but back at uni it wouldn't go on the wifi - any OS below XP is deemed a security risk say 'computer says no' department thus no certificate. Husband sends out upgrade OS disc, but not before the charger dies - no one at the uni has a replacement. Ordered a charger - sent without lead, what sort of moron does that? Sorry bad day.
Husband may have job over by uni, hurrah, hurrah he has multiple leads, boo, boo job in another direction.
DH calls to say he has bought this netbook for me. I mean it is the top of the range it comes apart to be a tablet and I know we can't afford it but it's bought and paid for. Thing is my husband thinks everyone takes to IT as easily as he does. I truly struggle to import favourites and faff about rebuilding one pc as the last one was. I find it just so much stress while he actively enjoys it.
Thing is learning about a new OS and how the netbook flips from being touchscreen to type would fascinate him. I cant find half the stuff in windows because I'm happier with Linux.
I have to get this beast set up for Monday and I can't 'relax and enjoy it' as he says.
I've thanked him but I think he bought something that he thought would remedy the problem without taking into account my IT skills. Now it tells me the HD space is low and dropbox cant synch jeez how can I free up space when I've hardly put the basics on it - I'd have been better with a lead to connect to the charger for my old laptop.
ungrateful non-techy cow that I am.

Pigeonpost Fri 22-Jan-16 23:04:01

Eh? YABU to throw a moody as presumably you are an adult, not a child. Yes, it can frustrating if someone buys you something well meaning but not right but you appear to be overthinking this a tad.

Vaginaaa Fri 22-Jan-16 23:32:49

Are you drunk?

BertrandRussell Fri 22-Jan-16 23:36:08

Grown up people don,t say "oh, I'm non techy" they just get on with it.

It's not rocket surgery (sic) just get on and learn, like an adult.

Ubik1 Fri 22-Jan-16 23:39:31

Well just Deal with it.

MaidOfStars Fri 22-Jan-16 23:40:09

You're 'happier with Linux' but you can't work out how to press buttons on a Windows version lower than XP?

GiddyOnZackHunt Fri 22-Jan-16 23:48:17

I don't understand about the charger? Which lead was missing? Couldn't you use the pluggable leads from the old one or buy one on eBay?

MaidOfStars Fri 22-Jan-16 23:49:31

I mean, just to clarify....

My Mum (68 year old, just worked out what a laptop is) says: Hey, I can't work out how to synch my Dropbox.
I have all the time in the world to show her, because she's still learning what computers are. No clue what an OS is. Or Office. Or Dropbox, the very thing she's asking about. Or even what 'synch' means.

OP says: Linux this.
And that's it, no? If you know what Linux is, you know what OSs are. And different options here. And more importantly, you know what Google is. And tech support. And bollocks to the 'I know nothing'.


FauxFox Fri 22-Jan-16 23:53:27

I know exactly how you feel.

Sadly yabu (and so am I when it comes to tech upgrades) so you have to suck it up. You'll love it soon and wonder why you got so stressed brew

ValiantMouse Sat 23-Jan-16 00:05:32


Grow the fuck up. Either learn to use the thoughtful gift or get a notepad and pen and use those.

Norest Sat 23-Jan-16 00:09:13


Casmama Sat 23-Jan-16 00:21:00

Sorry but yes YABU. Stop the whining about what a struggle it is and just get the fuck on with it- it's not rocket science and sounds like your dh would be willing to assist if you really can't do something.

Also wondering how you got something at Christmas with an os pre xp, why you can't just buy a charger from Amazon/eBay like anyone else and in what universe it is easier or more sensible to buy a top of the range netbook than buy a charger?!?

Monty27 Sat 23-Jan-16 00:27:38

I'm on the fence on this.

My dc's bought me a little tablet for Christmas. I was thrilled. My dd had already set everything up on it for me, because she has more patience aptitude to do so than I do. Done deal, here's a pressie dm, yes we've set you up on it so you can use it immediately (I'm not completely IT illiterate) and its just embracing something new. Which never does anyone any harm.

Look on the positive OP.

Monty27 Sat 23-Jan-16 00:28:19

And I hope you said thank you for the gift.

Notsobadpharma Sat 23-Jan-16 00:37:23

no I'm not drunk and what on earth does LMGTFY mean?
The charger was missing the lead that has the plug attached, I couldn't use the original one as the original one was a 'flat' design charger and had a two prong connection to the charger, the one that came on order needed a 3 prong lead one would assume that it would be sent fully functioning, thus sent with the lead - there was no mention of it not being sent with the lead. I needed the lead to have the pc set up by Monday.
Have I just unleashed my technical inadequacies on the 'IT department' of MN? I don't recall saying that I know nothing, however I am stuck with an OS that I have never used before; or did everyone posting rush out and upgrade to Windows 10 the minute it came out?
I am familiar with other versions of Windows, actually higher than XP if you had read the post rather than skimmed it but XP was not deemed to be secure on the network something I did not know till I arrived back at University.
I can also assure you from my DH tech support stories that grown up people very often do not 'get on with it' with computers, background or level of qualification is irrelevant he has dealt with all sorts and their problems. As I stated this netbook would be a joy for him to 'play' with.
Are we evaluating a specific level of competency in IT as a necessary life skill, much life driving? Hmm? Interesting, I'm medically unable to drive, bit of a quandary there.

2rebecca Sat 23-Jan-16 00:38:10

If you can't both really afford it and didn't ask for it then that aspect would piss me off. If we are buying an expensive gadget particularly one for me I expect to be consulted. I don't want to be little wify who should be grateful for what she's given and not consulted

Notsobadpharma Sat 23-Jan-16 00:41:08

Monty27 - 'I've thanked him but I think he bought something that he thought would remedy the problem without taking into account my IT skills.'

Notsobadpharma Sat 23-Jan-16 00:52:53

grin Thank you 2rebecca. Now I feel that I've got to find some way of paying off the card - quickly.

GiddyOnZackHunt Sat 23-Jan-16 00:53:01

You mentioned XP and Linux. Where did you mention 'other versions of Windows'? XP is the only version I saw.

GiddyOnZackHunt Sat 23-Jan-16 00:55:31

And that's a common difference between power supplies. You do need to be careful about that, sorry. But you can probably get the relevant part on eBay for a few quid.

Potatoface2 Sat 23-Jan-16 00:57:55

yawn...go to the store and sort it so over mumsnet dramas that are not dramas......have you got a life other than posting on here complete drivell ....struth....the shit on here is unbelievable...if i had a quid for every 'problem' that isnt a problem i would be a millionaire and ive only been on here for 4 mnths......i just cant believe the crap people post!

Casmama Sat 23-Jan-16 01:00:47

Don't hold back potato face, tell us what you really think gringringrin

Potatoface2 Sat 23-Jan-16 01:07:11

im pissed and telling you like it is grincasamama

GiddyOnZackHunt Sat 23-Jan-16 01:08:26

Don't let the door hit you...

Casmama Sat 23-Jan-16 01:09:02

I'm a bit pissed too and appreciate you being so articulate in your irritation grin

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