Probably going to get lynched here but I am interested to know what others think. Have NC for this one.
Basically moved to a new area a year ago - a small village. Everyone knows everyone kind of place which is fine, most of the time.
However there is one woman - late twenties - who everyone thinks is a bit of a pain. She seems to spout lies all the time to make herself look good, whinges to people that she can't afford to pay her bills yet splashes money on men she meets online. She bitches about people behind their backs, then is nice as pie to their faces. Her reputation really is that of someone who takes the piss. For example if she offered a lift, she would ask for money when you got to your destination. But when she had no car for a fortnight she badgered people for lifts yet didn't offer anyone a penny. She claims to be 'frugal' - she's not she just doesn't like parting with her money. She'd eat at someone else's home but if you were at her house and asked for food she'd say she didn't have much in and couldn't spare any. I am more than willing to help anyone who is struggling for money - but she can afford to go out on dates and spend money on presents for said dates.
Recently she literally burst a blood vessel when two neighbours decided to be friends and go out without her - because she thought SHE should be included because she knew them both first. My OH thinks she has something slightly wrong with her because she seems so have no social boundaries or idea of what is acceptable. But some of the lies she's spun to get her own way with things (think not paying back money borrowed or phoning in sick at work then being shocked that people have worked out she wasn't sick) seem way to clever for someone who isn't all there IYSWIM? Without going into too much detail she has fabricated a condition - which I fully believe she has researched to lie about and I said as such (have family members with said condition) but it doesn't seem to put her off using it as an excuse to behave exactly how she pleases.
So what I'm asking is AIBU to not tolerate it any more? To not tolerate her lies and annoying behaviour (which does affect me directly in some ways) and be blunt with her?
Last week she asked my OH to fix stuff in her house (and because he feels sorry for her he said yes) but I KNOW that she won't offer so much as a bloody fiver for his time, and it's a good few hours of work. And if I asked after the fact she would say she will pay him then just hope I forget about it. So when she asks I just basically want to say 'look X given your track record I know you don't like parting with your money but I'm not having you taking the piss out of my OH and expecting him to do your jobs for free, because the favour wouldn't be returned and we don't owe you anything'
I wouldn't mind her most recent OLD fella is apparently fucking superman so why wouldn't she ask him??? She flirts quite heavily with my OH by the way but I laugh it off, she seems to think every man in the village is gagging for her. But that's another story and I trust my OH implicitly.
Sorry long post but if I keep
Rolling my eyes at her and dropping subtle fuck off hints I'm gonna drive myself potty 
AIBU?
to stop being tolerant?
Beingsubtlegettingnowhere · 21/01/2016 16:10
june that's exactly what I think. But my OH seems to think she's actually got some kind of medical problem. But call me heartless I have a family
Of my own to worry about and she isn't my problem.
The locals just seem to ignore every word she says but it's hard when she's asking my OH for favours and he is too much of a softarse to say no.
Without sound nasty I don't think she's very intelligent but she is clever enough to manipulate people. Just this week I've been told of some shit stirring she has done (doesn't directly affect me) but she acted like she didn't know it was wrong. The shit stirring could cause a potential breakdown of a family with DC and involves someone else who had done something out of genuine concern. The concern was valid and if the nosey bitch hadn't stuck her nose in nobody would have been any the wiser 
If you want to start being straight with her that's fine, I don't blame you.
But I think you need to leave your DP out of it.
If she asks him to do a job for her, it's up to him to say yes or no.
Otherwise at best you sound like his agent and at worst, his Mother 
In my honest opinion if I tell her straight then my OH is still the same with her she will no doubt convince herself he fancies her like every other bloke in the village apparently does
Convincing herself, laughable. Actually saying it to other people (very possible) then creates a problem. I always manage to find them me!
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My great grandmother used to say "act daft and you get a long run for your money"
She's onto a good thing this lass, and she knows it.
If my husband felt sorry for someone and wanted to help them, I'd let him get on with it because he's an adult with his own mind
I'd tell him what I thought on the subject and the rest would be up to him obviously.
You need to speak to your DP if you're unhappy with him helping her. No-one mentioned 'having a go' at him.
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