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to think I got treated differently?

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thelifeofamber Thu 21-Jan-16 13:02:16

My friends organised a night to get together over a group FB message. I've deactivated my account a while ago which they knew about.

I only knew on the night when I got a text saying to come over at 7, I apologised and said I wasn't aware anything was arranged and that I was working late so I wouldn't be able to go.

I got a really snooty text back, pretty much implying it was my fault.

When in reality I personally don't believe there was any fault on either parties .... it was just a mistake.

Fast forward to this week when another event was organised (now through a whatsapp group) ... a friend had previously left this group as she wasn't going to an event organised over Christmas.

When they realised that the friend hadn't got the messages the same friend was all apologetic and really hope you can still make it etc

I was just a bit confused

Am I right in feeling this way?

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse Thu 21-Jan-16 13:04:47

It could be that with hindsight they realised they reacted badly to you, so didn't react the same way when it happened again. Or that the reaction was the person being stressed at the time about something else. I'd probably try not to take it personally smile

TheHouseOnTheLane Thu 21-Jan-16 13:08:59

Agree with FuckYouChris (OUTSTANDING user name btw)

Look on the positive side OP.

QuietWhenReading Thu 21-Jan-16 13:09:06

Knowing that you aren't on FB and actually remembering it at the time are two different things.

She probably was nicer to the second friend because age realised that you were hurt from last time.

thelifeofamber Thu 21-Jan-16 13:16:05

She probably was nicer to the second friend because age realised that you were hurt from last time.

I don't think she realised she had hurt me with her reply.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse Thu 21-Jan-16 13:22:40

Even if she didn't realise she'd hurt you, she may have realised you weren't to blame, and so already had that in mind when it happened again.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse Thu 21-Jan-16 13:24:40

If you are someone who usually cancels or is a bit flakey, then she may have responded differently to you and seen it as an excuse.

There are so many options that depend on your relationship and their relationship with the other person.

But you don't have to assume the worst smile we all have bad days when we are short with people, and good days when we're nicer.

Viviennemary Thu 21-Jan-16 13:50:56

The only reason I can think of is that you are sometimes unreliable and late or has form for not turning up or cancelling at the last minute. If you haven't then you have been treated unfairly.

InnerDiva Thu 21-Jan-16 14:24:35

Things like this always happen to me and it sucks. I'd re-think my friendship with the person that was snotty with you, OP.

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