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creamponies Wed 20-Jan-16 21:44:14

Ok I am doing a course and I got friendly with a guy in my class. Purley platonic may I add. He is hard of hearing and english is not his first language. He can be nice or rude. He walks 8 miles to school and backeveryday as this is his fitness regime. And frequently naps and of course I fill him in. He canbe nice and I did felt sorry for him as my dad has hard of hearing so its tough. But lately he is becoming very disrespectful

the last straw came when he kept sniffing and caught my sleeve of my arm and tried to blow his nose. I gave out to him and he qas like ha ha but your jumper is so soft. Well I ate him I told how dare he

and I dont like it and I didnt like he tried to wear my scarf last week. I told him not to touch my things. And who ever was iny class I said it out straight.

This guy personal hygiene is so bad . Wears the same clothes every dat. I sit beside and a few times he has asked for help.

I just told him im too busy you have to ask some one else I can barly grunt hello to him at the moment

CaptainCrunch Wed 20-Jan-16 21:45:56


MuttonDressedAsMutton Wed 20-Jan-16 21:46:18


Da fuq? shock

creamponies Wed 20-Jan-16 21:47:11

Ss on my phone. Basically he be wanting my help at some stage.
Am I being unreasonable not to give it.

creamponies Wed 20-Jan-16 21:49:02

He tried to blow his nose ony jumper yesterday and wore my scarf last week

CaptainCrunch Wed 20-Jan-16 21:50:52

No idea. I'm on my phone as well and can still write legible, coherent posts.

I wouldn't be rushing to help anyone who thought it acceptable to wipe their snotters on my sleeve though.

TheMouseThatRoared Wed 20-Jan-16 21:51:03


ilovesooty Wed 20-Jan-16 21:51:27

Why are you "friendly" with him?

ScarlettDarling Wed 20-Jan-16 21:55:07

He tried to blow his nose ON YOUR JUMPER and you need to ask whether you were unreasonable to stop him? confused

Hihohoho1 Wed 20-Jan-16 21:55:27

Busy night tonight. He sounds like a chavvy tramp. wink

amistillsexy Wed 20-Jan-16 21:56:27

You don't have to sit near him or help him. He is treating you without respect and it sounds as if it's making you feel uncomfortable. Is there a tutor or support teacher you can talk to about this? They might be able to advise you better because they know this man's circumstances better.

RC1234 Wed 20-Jan-16 21:57:52

Nope not unreasonable to refuse to help. Blowing your nose on someone else's clothes is hugely disrespectful. He has bigger problems than his hearing.

MuttonDressedAsMutton Wed 20-Jan-16 21:58:38

TheMouse - grin grin

<<fondly remembers u kmm>> (Was that it? Doesn't look right!)

HarrietSchulenberg Wed 20-Jan-16 21:59:36

I work with a teenage boy with autism who often tries to wear my scarf and once (and only once!) tried to blow his nose into it. He also says it's "because it's so soft". He also tries to suck my hair if it's not tied well back. Tiredness and napping are also issues.
I'd guess that your classmate has some issues that you don't know about, so, firstly, I would alert your tutor and, secondly, if the chap makes you feel uncomfortable don't sit next to him.

ginmakesitallok Wed 20-Jan-16 21:59:51

If I read your post with a northern irish accent it makes perfect sense. Yanbu

goodnightdarthvader1 Wed 20-Jan-16 22:00:36

It was u kmm!

creamponies Wed 20-Jan-16 22:00:41

Sorry I have my mouth all mashed up from the dentist and have to get . 2 fillings
SINCE last week im diagnosed as a pre diabetic since last week

I felt sorry for him as my dad was hard of hearing and but that guy is strange he lives alone too.
At first he was very nice to me

ChampaleSocialist Wed 20-Jan-16 22:01:20

Talk to your tutor and sit somewhere else. He may well have mental health issues as well as being hard of hearing, or he may just have really sucky social skills - but either way its not your problem.

TheMouseThatRoared Wed 20-Jan-16 22:01:26

I'm not too sure myself Mutton 😆

ExasperatedAlmostAlways Wed 20-Jan-16 22:03:59

So pre diabetic....not actually diabetic at all yet. Mouth all mashed up with fillings, so are you talking what you are posting out loud and then typing it the way you are saying it to get that across?

TheMouseThatRoared Wed 20-Jan-16 22:05:54

Method posting?

Flumplet Wed 20-Jan-16 22:06:17


Leelu6 Wed 20-Jan-16 22:06:27

Just continue giving it out to him and saying out straight that he be disrespectful and smelly. YANBU.

creamponies Wed 20-Jan-16 22:06:50

Thanksxx our tutors dont particularly care . Its more about results and its a training scheme run type

They know he is strange they just leave him at it

the rest of us are doing ok. Cant really move seats my.stuff is on my computer but we are getting into assignment time and he be annoying me he is in late 30s .

Griphook Wed 20-Jan-16 22:10:03

He sounds like a chavvy tramp. wink with a knock off bag no doubt hiho

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