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AIBU to think you NEED butter on your toast before the jam??

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weeblueberry Wed 20-Jan-16 11:42:32

DP handed me toast at the weekend that didn't have butter on before the jam. He claims it makes no difference but I argued you need it to soften the toast before the jam goes on. He offered to put some butter on top of the jam because 'surely it's the same thing'.

AIBU or is he completely and utterly in the wrong and frankly a bit weird?

StillStayingClassySanDiego Wed 20-Jan-16 11:44:22

Butter before jam, every time.

I could never be with a man who did this. grin.

ElasticPants Wed 20-Jan-16 11:44:59


weeblueberry Wed 20-Jan-16 12:00:04


It's the way I'm leaning tbh...

FlopIsMyParentingGuru Wed 20-Jan-16 12:01:41

it's well known that the good combination that tastes best is fat/sugar. Stand to reason that jam(sugar) without butter (fat) is only half a job...

FlopIsMyParentingGuru Wed 20-Jan-16 12:02:04

"Food" not "good"

patienceisvirtuous Wed 20-Jan-16 12:02:46


marriednotdead Wed 20-Jan-16 12:10:24

The only time you have dry toast and jam in my house is after a stomach upset.

whois Wed 20-Jan-16 12:12:01

Ugh DP eats his toast like that with no butter. Wrong Very VERY wrong.

AnUtterIdiot Wed 20-Jan-16 12:14:37

I would leave anyone who seriously suggested that putting butter on top of jam was the same as putting it underneath.

AllMyBestFriendsAreMetalheads Wed 20-Jan-16 12:18:43

Shh don't tell my kids this, I use jam when I've run out of butter.

I also find it easier to prevent contaminating the jam.

Doublebubblebubble Wed 20-Jan-16 12:20:37

Yep!!!! My dh is a fuss pot hates dairy so just puts jam on toast!! Yuck! It HAS to have butter

YakTriangle Wed 20-Jan-16 12:23:48

Eurgh. That would be just sticky and chewy.
There must be buttery toasty deliciousness.
It is the law.

BeardedBear Wed 20-Jan-16 12:27:58

Butter on toast = bleurgh. You never put butter on toast, it makes the toast go soggy. The whole point of toasting is to make a nice crunchy layer on the top. YABTotallyU

coffeetasteslikeshit Wed 20-Jan-16 12:29:21

YANBU. DS1 eats toast and jam with no butter. I'm thinking of sending him back...

Coffeelove Wed 20-Jan-16 12:31:20

YABU .... No need for butter when you have a light layer of jam ... Delish!! Just need to convince my DH who slathers an inch of butter with or without jam

blamethecat Wed 20-Jan-16 12:35:41

Another one with a DS who eats toast with jam and no butter, he gets quite cross if I butter his toast. Odd child.

x2boys Wed 20-Jan-16 12:37:10

Dh hates butter and margerine so all his toast is like this or completely dryhmm his sandwiches are too.

weeblueberry Wed 20-Jan-16 12:37:31

envy at everyone who doesn't put butter on first.

Sorry but this is very much an AIBU but no I'm most certainly not being unreasonable despite what any poster might say to the contrary.

Bananalanacake Wed 20-Jan-16 12:50:51

Is he German? my German DP says you never put butter with something sweet, but me, being British, always have butter with jam, nutella.

weeblueberry Wed 20-Jan-16 12:52:41

Nah, British. No excuses really.

JeanAndTonic Wed 20-Jan-16 12:58:56

Toast Butter Jam. YANBU! Butter in beans as well, makes it creamier. Neither DH nor 4 children would ever eat butter with their jam on toast, they've always turned their noses up at it. That's probably why they're much slimmer than me ...

unlimiteddilutingjuice Wed 20-Jan-16 13:01:05

Unless your Jenny Argueta in the Railway Children ("You may have butter and Jam but not both") then you do need butter!

Stormtreader Wed 20-Jan-16 13:17:02

I dont put butter on either, there are a few of us about smile Then again, I put a decent amount of jam on, that toast KNOWS its been jammed alright! Cant be doing with people who just put a light smear on.

wtffgs Wed 20-Jan-16 13:26:34


DD made me toast and jam no butter to cheer me up as I have been poorly. She's only 8 so I ate it - not enjoyable!

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