Re the heating?

(120 Posts)
MrsPear Tue 19-Jan-16 16:28:21

So husband can't work the heating - he is being a lazy arse. Has just complained it is cold in here - set to 18 on constantly. I said well put some clothes on - he is wearing shorts and a t shirt. He said you don't wear jumpers in the house; after all what do you wear when your out? A coat was my answer. Am I unreasonable to set the thermostat in account of jumpers?! Btw I left work to become a sahm after ds1 due to him having health problems and he is suppose to be working to support is but he he currently is not just gambling so I am not feeling charitable

MaidOfStars Tue 19-Jan-16 16:37:42

When he brings enough money home to pay the heating bill, he can turn it up a notch.

You have a bigger problem than him just being cold though.

HermioneJeanGranger Tue 19-Jan-16 16:42:54

Nope, we do the same.

If you're cold, wear socks and a jumper. If you're STILL cold, then we can talk about turning the heating up. It's winter, you can't expect to be warm in a t-shirt hmm

TheCatsMeow Tue 19-Jan-16 16:54:44

YABU id hate to have a freezing house I had to wear jumpers in just to feel normal

HermioneJeanGranger Tue 19-Jan-16 17:13:33

Most people can't afford to heat the house to t-shirt temperature, though.

pigsDOfly Tue 19-Jan-16 17:15:17

I would find the house very cold if the thermostat was set at 18 as my heating wouldn't even come on at that temperature. However, I wouldn't be sitting around in shorts and a t-shirt.

Mine was on 25 yesterday evening - new house, boiler is 9 months old. I was wearing a thermal vest - sounds nasty but it's pretty and lacy - a short sleeved light top, a thin jumper with a thicker jumper on top, oh and jeans and socks, and I was still a bit chilly.

During the day my thermostat is set at 21.5 at this time of the year, it comes on in the morning and I have it on that setting until the evening when I turn it up to around 25 degrees.

It's winter, how can he expect to be warm dressed in summer clothes. Agree with pp, until he's the one paying the heating bills, he needs to suck it up and put on a few sensible clothes.

TheCatsMeow Tue 19-Jan-16 17:16:05

Might be skewed by me being someone who's always freezing and so hates the cold. 22 feels "normal" to me.

HermioneJeanGranger Tue 19-Jan-16 17:18:05

Might be skewed by me being someone who's always freezing and so hates the cold. 22 feels "normal" to me.

I'm the same, but I can't afford to put the heating up higher than 20. I'm currently sat under a duvet and a blanket, with a hoody on, and a hot water bottle. I'm warm at the moment, but if I removed a layer, I'd soon be freezing cold!

CasperGutman Tue 19-Jan-16 17:18:26

TheCatsMeow, wearing jumpers in winter is normal! I wear a jumper at home, in shops, in the office, restaurants, everywhere. When I was at uni I wore a jumper in tutorials, classes, lectures, when I was at school I wore a jumper in classrooms.

I don't wear jumpers because places I go to are "freezing". I wear them because places are heated to a sensible level and I'm normal!

ghostyslovesheep Tue 19-Jan-16 17:18:29

no Cats I have it at 22 as well smile

ilovesooty Tue 19-Jan-16 17:19:02

What's happening to address the gambling?

TheCatsMeow Tue 19-Jan-16 17:19:57

Hermione that's annoying sad I only wear a dress and light cardi at home because I don't like feeling swamped but I do have about 4 blankets on my bed at night!

I'm lucky we live in an extended family home so bills aren't much of an issue

IHaveBrilloHair Tue 19-Jan-16 17:21:24

I have mine at 22 but don't wear just shorts and tshirt, that would be unreasonable.

TheCatsMeow Tue 19-Jan-16 17:22:03

ghost it's cold below that isn't it!

Casper wearing jumpers outside is normal and maybe light jumpers inside but I wouldn't expect to feel cold without one in my own home

YoungGirlGrowingOld Tue 19-Jan-16 17:22:09

We fight over the heating constantly - I like my house Siberian cold. DH is a jumper refusenik. It is mostly war. wink

PrimeDirective Tue 19-Jan-16 17:32:12

When he brings enough money home to pay the heating bill, he can turn it up a notch.
Whilst it's clear that he should be working, I think that's a dreadful thing to say. If there's only 1 person earning an income, they don't get to dictate the temperature that the heating is set on.
18 would be too cold for me, even with a jumper, but I do expect to wear warm clothes inside at this time of year.

arethereanyleftatall Tue 19-Jan-16 17:35:48

Is the gambling not a bigger problem than the heating?

Also, there only needs to be 1x sahp, I guess either of you could be looking for a job now, ie I'm not sure from your post if it has to be him.

SpecialStains Tue 19-Jan-16 17:36:54

Nope, you have to have a jumper and socks on in this house before the heating goes on. To put the heating on full whack and wander round in shorts and T-shirt is really unenvironmentally friendly.

harshbuttrue1980 Tue 19-Jan-16 17:48:15

I agree with Prime Detective. Imagine the fuss on here if the man has said to the woman that because she wasn't working, she couldn't have a say over the temperature of the home! If you are both at home, surely you should both be looking for a job - whoever finds one first takes the job, the other gets to be a sahp. Then you wouldn't be as worried about the cost of the heating. About the temperature itself, you need to compromise. Personally, I have my living room heated up nice and toasty, but I only put the heating on in the bedroom shortly before bed. Maybe have one room a bit warmer than the others?

universallyhated Tue 19-Jan-16 17:49:59

I only wear a t-shirt (and trousers!) in winter, I hate to be stifled by too many clothes, I'll be cold rather than put a jumper on - I'm frozen at the moment but I'd rather be cold than have too many clothes on.

MaidOfStars Tue 19-Jan-16 17:52:58

It was intended as a flippant response to a man who, instead of looking for work, is spending his days gambling.

I'm not advocating it as a general principle, sorry if that was what came across!

LobsterQuadrille Tue 19-Jan-16 17:58:14

I grew up in a freezing cold Victorian house and really don't like central heating so we (DD and I) have it on for half an hour in the morning and the same in the evening ..... and yes, jumpers, blankets and thick socks (and a fluffy cat) keep us warm. I can never understand people who have the heating on at night - that would drive me mad.

It's definitely not unreasonable to expect household members to wear jumpers when it's cold, but the gambling sounds like another issue to address.

TheCatsMeow Tue 19-Jan-16 18:00:17

Bloody hell some of you are strict over the heating

Slummamumma Tue 19-Jan-16 18:01:00

Nope YANBU - I mainly work from home and really feel the cold and have Raynaud's. Today was wearing long sleeved thermal vest, long sleeved t-shirt, woolly polo neck oh and knee length uggs. hot drinks help with the hands. no way I can afford to have the heating on or light the fire before 4pm (when DS back from school)

Merguez Tue 19-Jan-16 18:01:19

YANBU. It's January FFS, of course he should wear long trousers and a jumper inside the house.

Apart from ramping up your energy bills unnecessarily, it's extremely thoughtless to be so extravagant with the heating when the world is facing extreme climate change.

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