Had a horrible day with DD (12)
She told me this morning that she needed stuff for cooking lessons tomorrow.
So after school I picked up her and along with my other two DCs (DS 7 and DD2 4) we went to the supermarket. I said as a treat if they were good around the supermarket they could have a magazine each.
So DD had a list and we were halfway through it and she was getting cheese from behind us. I also needed cheese so I asked the 7 year old to pick some for us as well. He stood next to her and reached for some cheese (a different type to the one she wanted) and she hissed "not that one you idiot" to him.
I heard her and told her that he was getting cheese for us and she needed to apologise to him. She said sorry but it was full of attitude and she rolled her eyes as she said it. I told her that I wasn't buying anything else for her until she said sorry properly. She said it again in a nice way and we carried on but she was dragging her feet behind us and sighing. I ignored her.
Then we went back to the magazine aisle and the 4 year old liked the look of two magazines so she asked DD which one she should pick and DD said "shut up and hurry up already I am so bored of you". I told her that was not a good way to speak to your sister especially as this trip was for her. I said that she couldn't have a magazine for being mean to her siblings.
She said she was sorry and I said that was good but she still wasn't having a magazine as this was the second time she had been mean to her siblings.
She said she hated me and this family. She sulked and dragged her feet behind us and sat in the car with her arms crossed and sulking and as soon as we got home she slammed upstairs to her room.
While she was up there a friend of mine popped round and asked where DD was and she said that I should have handled it better and should have given her the magazine when she said sorry and I really messed up and I would have to learn before DD became a proper teenager.
She came down for her dinner and apologised for being rude and she was back to normal for the rest of the night.
So WIBU and how could I have handled DD better for the future?
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Recordmirror · 18/01/2016 21:58
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