My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

AIBU?

To be peeved at DH and DS going out this afternoon.

83 replies

redgoat · 17/01/2016 20:13

I've not been well. I'm a terrible patient so this may be clouding my judgement.

DH and DS watched the football here. As soon as it was finished, got DS to put his jumper on and said they were popping out. Wouldn't say where they were going. (He uses a stupid phrase similar to ' to see a man about a dog'.

They are still not back. DD is upset (and now in bed). I know where they are. They've gone to s local sporting fixture (the joys of being able to check payment pending on a joint account lol).

I'm pissed off. DD was initially worried (she's 8) and now upset they didn't take her. So am I. I wouldn't have wanted to go (I'm not well) but why the fuck not just say and take her?

OP posts:
Report
BathtimeFunkster · 17/01/2016 20:16

They just pissed off out together, didn't say where they were going and didn't invite your daughter? Shock

Report
Moln · 17/01/2016 20:17

That's mean on you DD's part. Very excluding; and seemingly a sexist decision. Even in the situation where it wasn't excluding her, if you're ill he should have taken both somewhere.

So no YANBU

Report
redgoat · 17/01/2016 20:17

Yup. To be fair to DS, I don't think he knew severe he was going.

OP posts:
Report
redgoat · 17/01/2016 20:18

Severe=where

OP posts:
Report
gamerchick · 17/01/2016 20:19

As nice as it is that father and son do bonding time.. A stern word when he gets back about excluding his daughter and next time if he takes one he takes the other.

Report
WhirlwindHugs · 17/01/2016 20:20

I would be very angry if my husband had done this! Poor DD (and you, left in the dark as well)

Report
MrsKCastle · 17/01/2016 20:21

Agree that it's mean. It seems like clear favouritism to take one DC and not give the other the choice. Plus downright disrespectful of you, especially as you're not well.

Report
BrandNewAndImproved · 17/01/2016 20:21

I can understand why he only wanted to take one dc. I love taking out just one of mine and would take the one appropriate to the event.

The refusing to say where they were going would piss me off but I don't understand why your dds so upset.

Report
redgoat · 17/01/2016 20:22

Do I bother with the not telling us where they were going? I'm so cross on both fronts but more on behalf of DD. Totally out of order to both exclude her AND have her worrying they were gone so long.

OP posts:
Report
CFSsucks · 17/01/2016 20:22

Wow that's shit. I'd be fuming. Your poor DD!

Report
Griphook · 17/01/2016 20:28

No that's really nasty of him. I hate the expression 'going to see a man about a dog' I mean who does he think he is that he doesn't have to tell his family where he is going.

If it was me I'd turn the lights of and go to bed, because otherwise we'd have an almighty row and i think that's what he wants.

Report
LineyReborn · 17/01/2016 20:32

This was my dad.

My mother tried not to enable it at one point, but she did in the end.

Report
redgoat · 17/01/2016 20:33

BrandNew, she was worried they'd been gone so long so I told her when I found out and she actually likes the sport they've gone to see.

OP posts:
Report
honeysucklejasmine · 17/01/2016 20:34

How old is your DS?

Report
MrsTerryPratchett · 17/01/2016 20:34

I know it's drama llama territory but I do think of things like Hillsborough when threads like this come up. What if something happened and you had no idea where your family was? TBF I do live in an earthquake zone so it's less drama than it sounds. I want to know where people are in case there's an emergency.

How old is DS?

Report
redgoat · 17/01/2016 20:35

DS is 11. They've just phoned to say they are on their way home and can I make DS a sandwich. They now know I'm not happy.

OP posts:
Report
MrsTerryPratchett · 17/01/2016 20:37

They've just phoned to say they are on their way home and can I make DS a sandwich. Your DH very clearly knows your place and wants you to know it too. Are you going to change this?

Report
Krampus · 17/01/2016 20:39

I know this isn't the focus of the thread but why on earth is he asking you to make DS a sandwich Hmm Is he incapable of opening the door, walking in to the kitchen and make his son one?

Report
honeysucklejasmine · 17/01/2016 20:42

He wants you to make a sandwich?! Shock

Report
gamerchick · 17/01/2016 20:42

Ah try not to let the bairn see you're cross. He's probably had a whale of a time. Let him go to bed a bit floaty rather than a bit anxious because you're mad.

Report
Krampus · 17/01/2016 20:43

The sandwich issue aside, your dp was dismissive and disrespectful. The normal thing to do is give an idea of how long you will be and where.

Report
redgoat · 17/01/2016 20:44

It was DS that phoned. It's passed his bed time so I suspect it's a clumsy few-minute-saving request.

I do pick DH up on his everyday sexism whenever it rears it's head . I'm quite feisty really. Bringing DD up to be the same.

OP posts:
Report

Don’t want to miss threads like this?

Weekly

Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!

Log in to update your newsletter preferences.

You've subscribed!

MrsTerryPratchett · 17/01/2016 20:45

There is a whole woman-hating internet meme about making sandwiches.

Report
SirBoobAlot · 17/01/2016 20:45

Is your H always this much of an arsehole?

Report
HolgerDanske · 17/01/2016 20:46

No you can't make ds a sandwich. If he's 11yo he can make one himself. If for some reason that isn't possible, DH can bloody well make it for him.

Nip this in the bud.

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.