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To be peeved at DH and DS going out this afternoon.

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redgoat Sun 17-Jan-16 20:13:57

I've not been well. I'm a terrible patient so this may be clouding my judgement.

DH and DS watched the football here. As soon as it was finished, got DS to put his jumper on and said they were popping out. Wouldn't say where they were going. (He uses a stupid phrase similar to ' to see a man about a dog'.

They are still not back. DD is upset (and now in bed). I know where they are. They've gone to s local sporting fixture (the joys of being able to check payment pending on a joint account lol).

I'm pissed off. DD was initially worried (she's 8) and now upset they didn't take her. So am I. I wouldn't have wanted to go (I'm not well) but why the fuck not just say and take her?

BathtimeFunkster Sun 17-Jan-16 20:16:21

They just pissed off out together, didn't say where they were going and didn't invite your daughter? shock

Moln Sun 17-Jan-16 20:17:18

That's mean on you DD's part. Very excluding; and seemingly a sexist decision. Even in the situation where it wasn't excluding her, if you're ill he should have taken both somewhere.


redgoat Sun 17-Jan-16 20:17:49

Yup. To be fair to DS, I don't think he knew severe he was going.

redgoat Sun 17-Jan-16 20:18:35


gamerchick Sun 17-Jan-16 20:19:28

As nice as it is that father and son do bonding time.. A stern word when he gets back about excluding his daughter and next time if he takes one he takes the other.

WhirlwindHugs Sun 17-Jan-16 20:20:36

I would be very angry if my husband had done this! Poor DD (and you, left in the dark as well)

MrsKCastle Sun 17-Jan-16 20:21:06

Agree that it's mean. It seems like clear favouritism to take one DC and not give the other the choice. Plus downright disrespectful of you, especially as you're not well.

BrandNewAndImproved Sun 17-Jan-16 20:21:26

I can understand why he only wanted to take one dc. I love taking out just one of mine and would take the one appropriate to the event.

The refusing to say where they were going would piss me off but I don't understand why your dds so upset.

redgoat Sun 17-Jan-16 20:22:08

Do I bother with the not telling us where they were going? I'm so cross on both fronts but more on behalf of DD. Totally out of order to both exclude her AND have her worrying they were gone so long.

CFSsucks Sun 17-Jan-16 20:22:12

Wow that's shit. I'd be fuming. Your poor DD!

Griphook Sun 17-Jan-16 20:28:42

No that's really nasty of him. I hate the expression 'going to see a man about a dog' I mean who does he think he is that he doesn't have to tell his family where he is going.

If it was me I'd turn the lights of and go to bed, because otherwise we'd have an almighty row and i think that's what he wants.

LineyReborn Sun 17-Jan-16 20:32:08

This was my dad.

My mother tried not to enable it at one point, but she did in the end.

redgoat Sun 17-Jan-16 20:33:28

BrandNew, she was worried they'd been gone so long so I told her when I found out and she actually likes the sport they've gone to see.

honeysucklejasmine Sun 17-Jan-16 20:34:14

How old is your DS?

MrsTerryPratchett Sun 17-Jan-16 20:34:54

I know it's drama llama territory but I do think of things like Hillsborough when threads like this come up. What if something happened and you had no idea where your family was? TBF I do live in an earthquake zone so it's less drama than it sounds. I want to know where people are in case there's an emergency.

How old is DS?

redgoat Sun 17-Jan-16 20:35:59

DS is 11. They've just phoned to say they are on their way home and can I make DS a sandwich. They now know I'm not happy.

MrsTerryPratchett Sun 17-Jan-16 20:37:27

They've just phoned to say they are on their way home and can I make DS a sandwich. Your DH very clearly knows your place and wants you to know it too. Are you going to change this?

Krampus Sun 17-Jan-16 20:39:41

I know this isn't the focus of the thread but why on earth is he asking you to make DS a sandwich hmm Is he incapable of opening the door, walking in to the kitchen and make his son one?

honeysucklejasmine Sun 17-Jan-16 20:42:07

He wants you to make a sandwich?! shock

gamerchick Sun 17-Jan-16 20:42:28

Ah try not to let the bairn see you're cross. He's probably had a whale of a time. Let him go to bed a bit floaty rather than a bit anxious because you're mad.

Krampus Sun 17-Jan-16 20:43:32

The sandwich issue aside, your dp was dismissive and disrespectful. The normal thing to do is give an idea of how long you will be and where.

redgoat Sun 17-Jan-16 20:44:11

It was DS that phoned. It's passed his bed time so I suspect it's a clumsy few-minute-saving request.

I do pick DH up on his everyday sexism whenever it rears it's head . I'm quite feisty really. Bringing DD up to be the same.

MrsTerryPratchett Sun 17-Jan-16 20:45:14

There is a whole woman-hating internet meme about making sandwiches.

SirBoobAlot Sun 17-Jan-16 20:45:58

Is your H always this much of an arsehole?

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