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Aibu... Regarding birthday

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lastqueenofscotland Sat 16-Jan-16 16:35:14

Ready to be told im being a brat

It's my birthday this week. So to celebrate being as old I arranged a while ago to meet with some friends on the day, waited for everyone to let me know if they could come or not booked a table at a restaurant we all like for those that could come.

Two of them today:
1) can't come now which is fine except for the fact she now seems to want everyone else to change their plans so she can, so cancel the dinner, go to where she lives (ages away) and go for a pub night out much later in the evening there which would be no fun as I'd have to drive and have work the next day as I couldn't get any time off.

2) this one has upset me more one of my oldest and dearest friends isn't coming unless someone else pays for them as hey can't afford it. Now as this friend tells me everything I also know they've had three proper sessions in the pub this week, ordered a takeaway, had two massive trips to see sports teams which they always do with bells and whistles on, so £30 on tickets, then trains, lots of drink, lunch and dinner out. Well over £100 a time. They booked the one they are doing tomorrow on Friday... Long after I'd told them and they said they'd not miss it. We aren't going anywhere expensive (as requested by the group) so one less pub trip and they'd be able to afford a main there easily.

I'm not a princess but I've been looking forward to this meal out and getting a group together for weeks and two people let me down in two hours.
Aibu to be slightly upset.
I won't say anything to them I just want a moan!

hedgehogsdontbite Sat 16-Jan-16 16:41:43


They're being shitty friends.

OliviaBenson Sat 16-Jan-16 16:42:58

Yanbu! With regards 1, don't change your plans. Just say that's a shame you can't make it but none of her other suggestions work for you as you want to celebrate on the day itself.

With 2, I'd simply state my surprise next time she tells you what she's been up too. Passive aggressive I know, but I couldn't resist.

lastqueenofscotland Sat 16-Jan-16 16:45:05

Olivia- I think I might have to... I was really shocked by that... Less than 24 hours after they told me they'd got tickets last min to see a premier league football team this weekend hmm

redexpat Sat 16-Jan-16 17:01:16

That is shitty. Try
and focus on the people who do come. And happy birthday cakeflowers

DoomGloomAndKaboom Sat 16-Jan-16 17:34:59

1) "What a great idea! Let's do that for YOUR birthday!"

2) "OK, enjoy the football, bye then."


MLGs Sat 16-Jan-16 19:02:24


Don't do what the first friend asks though.

ShhhBeQuiet Sat 16-Jan-16 19:50:04


I wouldn't rearrange and I wouldn't offer to pay. It seems very cheeky for your friend to ask you to pay for them. Although perhaps you could suggest that if they are short they could order and pay for their own food rather than everyone splitting the bill.

Ps Happy Birthday

fuzzywuzzy Sat 16-Jan-16 19:54:11

Happy birthday tell them both its a terrible shame they can't make it.

Do not change your plans or pay for the friend.

Have a fab birthday meal smile

badg3r Sat 16-Jan-16 20:09:02

YANBU, I would passive aggressively say something in passing to the second friend too if it came up, that's really shitty.

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