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DH asking me to leave the house

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Hartofpixie Fri 15-Jan-16 14:03:27

My normally lovely DH has two work colleagues - he's worked with them for many years. One (Belinda) is happily married and we occasionally see her and her DH socially. The second (Claudia) is very single, and has always had a bit of a thing for my DH (she told him once, and he very politely let her down gently).

Claudia sometimes invites the wider working team round in the evening. I have never been invited. DH feels he needs to reciprocate, and has told me he is going to invite them both round for an evening meal. All fine, apart from he just told me I have to go out that evening? It's -4? On a Monday?

So AIBU or is that extremely weird and rude?

Twindroops Fri 15-Jan-16 14:04:57

That's weird.

Writerwannabe83 Fri 15-Jan-16 14:05:43

Bloody hell!!!!


Lulu1083 Fri 15-Jan-16 14:05:57

Extremely rude. I hate to say this but are you sure Belinda will be there?

LindyHemming Fri 15-Jan-16 14:06:12

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HolgerDanske Fri 15-Jan-16 14:06:40

Very weird and hugely disrespectful.

OracleofDelphi Fri 15-Jan-16 14:06:53

NO YANBU - how can anyone ask you to vacate your house! Thats terrible.... if DH has some mates round for the evening I either sit with them or if they are doing something that is not to my taste or wanted to do something "just them" I would go into another room and watch tv/ read...... But then on the other hand I have never told DH that he has to leave for a girls night....

If you want to go out and use it as a reason to catch up with someone on your own then thats fine, but no YANBU you should never be told you have to leave our own house.

mumeeee Fri 15-Jan-16 14:07:07

YANBU. If your DH is inviting them to your house. Then you should be there and join in with the meal. That's what would happen in our house.

knobblyknee Fri 15-Jan-16 14:07:33

Well I guess it would be weird for him if you had to sit in the bedroom.

yorkshapudding Fri 15-Jan-16 14:07:49

So, your DH's colleague tells him she has feelings for him and he thinks it's appropriate to invite her to his house while his wife is out? Sorry, I don't get that. I cannot see any reasonable explanation for him insisting you make yourself scarce, especially as the other woman who is supposedly coming over is a mutual friend of yours that you have socialised with before.

Hartofpixie Fri 15-Jan-16 14:07:53

Oh thank god! I thought it might just be me being a bit oversensitive. Yes Belinda will definitely be there. He wouldn't for a minute want to have Claudia over by herself.

slicedfinger Fri 15-Jan-16 14:07:54

Absolutely no way on earth. And I do try to be pretty calm about that sort of thing. But just no.

knobblyknee Fri 15-Jan-16 14:08:10

^^ I dont think my sarcasm really came across in that. Kick him out, the fucker.

Shakey15000 Fri 15-Jan-16 14:08:11

WHAT?? That's the weirdest thing hmm

It would be a resounding no from me. What's his reasoning in asking you to leave your own bloody house??

StillStayingClassySanDiego Fri 15-Jan-16 14:08:12

Fuck that!

Tell him no you're not going out.

NanaNina Fri 15-Jan-16 14:08:29

That's ridiculous! And do you mean till 4 in the morning? I can understand if they want to talk shop it would be boring for you but you could always do something else, watch TV in your bedroom or read or well anything really...........I think I might smell a rat as well.

antimatter Fri 15-Jan-16 14:08:38

Is he planning a treesome?

BishopBrennansArse Fri 15-Jan-16 14:08:58

Tell him to fottfsoftwhetfoa

flanjabelle Fri 15-Jan-16 14:09:26

No way. Completely out of line from your dh. Don't let him chuck you out of your own home op. You need to stand up to him on this, I dont care what his reasons are, it's not ok at all.

handslikecowstits Fri 15-Jan-16 14:09:30

Call me an old cynic, but I'd be wondering if Claudia is really coming alone.

mumeeee Fri 15-Jan-16 14:09:46

That's unless of course you want to go out.
Your DH is being very rude and weird telling you that you have to leave the house

Hartofpixie Fri 15-Jan-16 14:09:46

I am very tempted to stay in but tell him I'll stay upstairs and keep wafting in and out wearing and doing unlikely and embarrassing things.

yorkshapudding Fri 15-Jan-16 14:09:51

Lulu, that was the first thing that occurred to me too

SuperCee7 Fri 15-Jan-16 14:09:56

That's really awkward, rude and ridiculous tbh. Wtf?

sofiahelin1 Fri 15-Jan-16 14:10:14

Wtf no very weird

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