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Lovelychick Fri 15-Jan-16 10:56:17

Hi,
I am new to this and need advise my partner is always on his playstation after doing 12hrs at work and when I tell him I don't want him on it his response is that he needs to unwind. Aibu to consider sending his ps4 to a charity shop

MrsGentlyBenevolent Fri 15-Jan-16 11:00:26

YABU, who are you to tell an adult how to unwind - after 12 hours at work at that. Unless you have kids he's ignoring, but since that's not a point you've made in your OP then I assume not. How would you feel if he told you that you couldn't read a book or watch tv to unwind?

LookARandomName Fri 15-Jan-16 11:01:35

How long is he on it for? And why don't you want him on it?

As a bloke, I tend to play something for about an hour a night on most nights (if I'm not going to the gym, going out or whatnot). My wife does too (fortunately, the joys of having a Wii U as well mean that we can both play stuff at the same time).

I very much doubt sending his PS4 to the charity shop will make you appear more favourable to him.

Lovelychick Fri 15-Jan-16 11:03:24

He is on it from about 9pm until at least 1am and I am getting sick of it, all I want is a loving boyfriend but he seems to love his playstation more then me

Palomb Fri 15-Jan-16 11:05:14

You need to ditch the manchild and find your self someone who's capable of active like an adult.

I'm a gamer, my husband is a gamer, my kids play games. None of us would think that kind of gaming is acceptable.

Lovelychick Fri 15-Jan-16 11:07:50

He is far from being a manchild as he works his backside off and when we do go out he is amazing but the ps4 is driving me mad, he fave game is Tomb Raider and I don't get why

VeryBitchyRestingFace Fri 15-Jan-16 11:08:43

4 hours isn't "unwinding" - he surely can't be getting enough sleep if he works 12 hour shifts on top of the gaming, for one thing.

themumfairy Fri 15-Jan-16 11:09:17

Would you be happy for him to show you some attention for a few hours then him play on it? Maybe a compromise?

Lovelychick Fri 15-Jan-16 11:09:57

I am gonna give him an option me or his beloved ps4

eloquent Fri 15-Jan-16 11:11:18

Play with him?

Lovelychick Fri 15-Jan-16 11:11:40

I just find it strange how he is obsessed with that game tomb raider

CalleighDoodle Fri 15-Jan-16 11:11:42

This annoys me too

eloquent Fri 15-Jan-16 11:11:51

Now you're being ridiculous.

Lovelychick Fri 15-Jan-16 11:12:06

Not into games

PaulAnkaTheDog Fri 15-Jan-16 11:12:46

He's behaving like a prat but you can't chuck someone's stuff out, just because you don't like their attitude.

Seriouslyffs Fri 15-Jan-16 11:13:03

Who else lives with you?
An ultimatum- 'me or any non essential pastime or behaviour' which is taking 4 hours a day is utterly reasonable.

Lovelychick Fri 15-Jan-16 11:13:41

Technically it belongs to me as bought it him for his birthday

CalleighDoodle Fri 15-Jan-16 11:14:15

when it is late and i say im ready for bed and he says he will be up in a minute. I get ready for bed, get in, and can hearing him talking to someone on his headset. He will be there until 1am and we have no sex life. I totally agree with you. If done at the expense of his relationship it is selfish and thoughtless.

PaulAnkaTheDog Fri 15-Jan-16 11:14:18

No it doesn't. You gifted it to him, it's his. confused

LookARandomName Fri 15-Jan-16 11:15:39

4 hours is excessive I think - even in my university days I was rarely playing that much in a day. But then, each to their own. I can see what I think is your point - in a standard day, with 12 hours work, 8 hours sleep and 4 hours playing, he's leaving no time for anything else.

Gaming is a viable hobby nowadays, but disposing of the PS4 (and indeed any other gaming device) is a bit overkill. Couldn't you ask him to limit his time and ensure he does other things too?

eloquent Fri 15-Jan-16 11:16:33

When you're playing a game, its very easy to get sucked in.
Talk to him and stop being so childish.

JohnLuther Fri 15-Jan-16 11:17:03

You can't just get rid of it, it's his not yours.

weeblueberry Fri 15-Jan-16 11:18:34

Technically it belongs to me as bought it him for his birthday

Er I don't think you know how gifts work. hmm

Personally I'm a gamer but doing that every night would piss me off. It's not that he's on the PS4, it's that he's doing something every single night that's not spending time with you. Not that every moment should be dedicated to you but he needs to appreciate limits.

The game he's playing is pretty irrelevant.

Silverpinkswirls Fri 15-Jan-16 11:19:13

If he wasn't on the ps4 he would probably just be watching TV or doing something else to help him unwind. Does he have a very stressful job that he just wants to shut off mentally from?

We have 2 TVs in the living room one for TV and one for my DS to play his PS3 on occasionally. We can sit relatively close together and still chat away while watching/doing different things. I wear headphones when I really want to concentrate on a show I'm watching.

Silverpinkswirls Fri 15-Jan-16 11:20:48

Be proactive and organise nights out to get him away from the ps4 and invite friends over for dinner.

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