Sorry this is long but I need to give background ...
Dds are 6 and almost 4. We DO disciple one them - we use time outs , take away screen time etc . But ...
They do not listen to me or respect me. The eldest even tells me that she doesn't have to do as I ask if she doesn't want to .
I collected her from school today - a rare treat as normally she goes to after school club .
From the minute she realised I hadn't brought her a snack , she was rude to me , refused to talk to me about her day - I just got eye rolling and one line shouty replies .
If I ask her to do simple tasks, she growls in my face in anger , says no and stamps her feet .
The youngest has regular tantrums . She also demands that I or daddy do things for her - if I'm free to help her and daddy is busy , she will demand daddy help her and refuse me . She will throw herself on the floor and kick and scream .
I've had enough . Sometimes the demands and tantrums start from 5:30am .
Tonight I called eldest for teeth brushing , she came then decided she needed to go get something from downstairs . I said she could wait until after teeth , she ignored me and went anyway !
She then refused to brush her teeth so I told her to go to her room - she refused so I had to carry her in whilst she was laughing and clinging to the door .
Youngest then went in to her room and started having a tantrum because I wasn't immediately free (DH went to her ).
She started kicking her furniture (she does this often ).
So I told them both no story before sleep tonight .
Youngest is currently having an epic tantrum and is crying her eyes out for a story . I'm ready to cave .
I told eldest no faffing with soft toys before bed (she did this last night and didn't go to sleep til late - I didn't realise as she was quiet).
She asked me to dress one of her barbie dolls she keeps near her bed . I said no it's sleep time and we will do it in the morning . I told her to put it away .
After dealing with the youngest again , I went back to eldest's room who was sitting dressing the bloody barbie !
So I took it and put it away myself . I told her not to ignore me and left the room .
She then got out of bed and retrieved the doll to take back to bed !
So again , I took it and put it away explaining she can have it back in the morning . I have left her with her favourite bears and barbies she has on a shelf next to her .
Well she has gone ballistic ! She is screaming , crying , telling me it's her favourite one (I don't think it is ) . She is sobbing . More screaming . Refusing to settle .
I've tried to comfort her , she shouts at me more . I've ignored her and she's still going .
I feel bad . Really bad . But I need to follow through don't I ?
She rarely gets this upset .
What should I do ?
I am really doubting myself here so please be gentle !
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BetsyMalone · 12/01/2016 19:41
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