and i feel i am letting her down too.
she is in year 6. ed pdych report in y4/5.
year 5 not too bad but year 6 i hoped for more help.
No differentiation for her homework. big long words to spell. the same list as my friend's child who sailed through 11 plus.
brought it up with teacher. was told - oh its ok we know dd struggles we don't expect her to do it really. just do her tables etc. yet every week the same homework. every week she can't do it. i sit with her for hours trying to help without actually doing it for her.
but now it's coming up to sats. each homework is a mock test. each just marked right or wrong. i note where i have helped. where we couldn't work things out. no feedback.
its like oh well she is dyslexic she shouldn't worry about it.
she has a tutor and touch typing lessons. without which she couldn't read. she now loves to read .
but still describes herself as stupid because she cannot achieve her homework goals and goals in class.
AIBU?
School have written my child off because she is dyslexic
TheoriginalLEM · 12/01/2016 11:54
Had this with spelling tests and mine - though mine aren't diagnosed wasn't much point at last school talking to other and waiting for this school take on them- teachers knew they were trying but they still lost break time.
It made them both worried, anxious and hate tests 
which the teachers knew and admitted was a concern but didn't stop the tests.
Try putting your concerns in writing about inability to do homework -sometime IME it means concerns are better dealt with.
Low expectations are a bloody pain - had it with our DS for being a boy and it was one reason why we didn't do private assessment for dyslexia for eldest yet despite many concerns as saw in last school a few child who did go down that route get no more help that already getting but getting their expectations very clearly capped.
IME there is lots of good advice on primary board to help with specific problems. My DC have made considerable progress in reading and spelling that's to sound foundation books - at very least it gives eldest a better plan for spelling longer words - split them up and learning odd bits.
Other than that is reassurance and little and often support work - though I worry that we might do so much support we could be masking underlying problems.
I could just cut and paste lost's post, as it describes me also.
As I moved up through the school years, and there was less focus on beautiful hand writing, with correct spellings life became easier.
Coping strategies are the way to go.
Is there something outside of school she could do that would allow her to show what she is good, and not be the worst at?
Rather than help her through the homework, what would happen if you requested 2 copies, or if you could photocopy somewhere. Then let her try with the original copy, and submit to school. Then you and her work through the copy (and you can do the writing now 
) to give her the understanding.
I'm sorry to hear nothing us being done...get in now before it knocks your dd's confidence. I'm a teacher and dyslexic, it is very poor practice not to differentiate anyway, but especially so for a child with a specific need. My DS in in yr 4, had just had an assessment and a needs assessment, meaning he gets extra support as well as equipment and software to help.
You need to stand your ground, school tried to fob me off at first, but when they realised I wasn't backing down started to put more in place to help.
He too loves school. Make an appointment with the sendco and the teacher and raise your concerns, make a just beforehand, then agree a second meeting a month after to see what has changed. 
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Just wanted to send some support.
I hope you get somewhere with the school. It must be incredibly frustrating for her. It is infuriating that people still think 'dyslexic' must mean 'is not academic' or 'is stupid'. 
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