Have name changed.
Single working Mum, children have additional needs, I have medical problems. No respite, no help, hardly any local family. No support financially or otherwise from twat of an exh. While I am struggling my arse off to provide for our kids and sitting in a freezing cold house all day with coats and hats on because I work from home mostly and can only afford the heating on when the kids are home he is providing documentation to the csa that he cannot afford to pay anything for them despite posting pictures of thirty odd quid bottles of posh alcohol or designer clothes on his social media.
I am exhausted, no one will help me, we have been waiting forever for an appointment to see camhs again.
Elderly parents, both major health issues, one terminal and I am going to be responsible for their care shortly (only child) of course I will do it, of course I care but I am already exhausted.
I am fed up of being in pain, of being cold, of sitting in these four walls because I cannot get out anywhere. There is no local support.
The children are HARD work particularly the one with additional needs who has just hit puberty where everything is suddenly a massive battle all the time. The teenager has just hurt themselves running across the room to get to the door before me when I was going to the loo?? Nothing in the flaming house works properly, the washer, the hot water heater, the fire is bloody playing up , the wind has taken the tv ariel off and the kids are driving me mad as a result and I have just had e-bloody-nough tonight and so very fed up of doing it on my own and being constantly skint despite working.
God I feel so bloody pathetic whinging when there are people in places Syria and surrounding crossing seas and risking death to get half of what I have but I am just so bloody very tired.
AIBU?
To think this is all too fucking hard
hippowithsuncreen · 11/01/2016 22:02
I don't know how to best advise but 
for you - you sound at the end of your tether.
Can you call him out on FB? Is that generally advisable?
Report him to child support place. He's clearly lying. You and children deserve better.
xxI'm so sorry to hear how hard things are. You sound lovely and very caring and l wish you all the best 
You are amazing, and you are stronger than you think you are, just to be keeping going under these circumstances.
Can you screen shot your ex's FB pix as evidence??
No yanbu can I ask have you claimed dla for your dc with additional needs they do not need a diagnosis. Also possibly pip for yourself?
This would help pay for heating and any suitable clubs for your dc to give you a break.
That sounds very hard
My 13 yr asd ( mainstream school)ds gets short breaks funding which funds sunday youth group, a befriender and overnight trips with the youth group. It's very welcome respite for our family. I think cahms or paed referred us.
Can you work somewhere warm like the library or supermarket cafe?
Everything is broken, mouldy and a mess in my house...i so wish i was good at diy/could replace appliances etc etc
It will be warmer in a month or so and I have heard children get easier as they get older
you are not pathetic at all, far from it.
Report his FB photos to whoever is dealing with your child support claim. Give them his FB details, they may be interested in checking if it's a public profile.
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Have you ever had support from your local SENDIASS service? They are supposed to provide free, impartial support for parents of YP with additional needs.
Sorry if you have already explored this avenue and I'm teaching you to suck eggs. 
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