3yo DD starting preschool this week. She had an induction last week, then did two sessions happily.
Last night from directly after her bath she started getting very worried. Kept saying about how she didn't want to go. She was very very unsettled going to sleep and woke up at 3am crying. First words on waking were 'not go to preschool'. It's an afternoon session, so I had time to work on her. Eventually persuaded her into uniform, breakfast - but the whole time she kept repeating that she really didn't want to go. Very cuddly and quiet.
To avoid drip-feeding - she is diagnosed as severely speech delayed - so preschool is probably quite hard to adjust to. She's been in day nursery before - so it's not like it's the first separation.
I phoned preschool and asked if we could re-do induction (i.e. arrive half an hour late, me allowed in with her and generally low pressure). They did allow me to - but I was given a stiff talking to on the phone about setting out as we mean to go on. During the 15 minutes that I sat in the corner of the hall, I had four more rounds of being taught to suck eggs patronising instruction on how important it is to do a quick 'cheerio' and scarper.
So clearly they thought I was highly unreasonable. I'm unrepentant. IMO it would have been wrong to ignore anxiety that is so sustained. I feel it is much better to slow down a bit and let her get used to the setting - rather than establishing a pattern of forcing her to go.
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To pander to my preschooler's anxiety?
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Dundee86 · 11/01/2016 17:42
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