I have 2 DC, DS is very kind and loving, a gentle, good little boy. DD is what is referred to as a character she is a good girl, she can be kind and thoughtful, but she can also be bossy, demanding, basically a little madam at times.
She hit another DC at school, for not moving out of her way when she asked them to. The teacher punished her by putting her on Red (traffic light system) and I took her screen time away for a week (she is in reception) and talked with her about being kind etc... So she went back to school, and for the next week teacher said she was a model student. Teacher said she was actually quite funny, how she strained to sit as straight as humanly possible etc. So teacher put her on gold.
Now, here's my thing.
I understand she has been rewarded for good behaviour, I understand that the teacher has done it to show her that being well behaved is better than being naughty, and has done it to encourage her to keep behaving well, fine.
But DS has never been on Gold. And he's such a good boy all year round (he burst into tears 'confessing' to me he'd been given a warning for breaking a pencil just before parents evening. That's the worst thing he's ever done in school)
I used to see it at school myself, the children who were good all the time were left to it, the disruptive kids were punished for being good for an hour (or so it seemed).
I am a bit put out on DS' behalf. He seemed really happy for DD, and kept telling me, quite excitedly 'DD must have been sooo good to get on gold' and then, a little wistfully, ' I'venever been on gold'
I don't know if I'm over reacting or not, and DD was so pleased to be put on gold, and it really did reinforce to her that good behaviour is better, but just seem to be showing the opposite to me
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Timri · 07/01/2016 14:16
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