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Anaffaquine123 Thu 07-Jan-16 13:43:31

I was asked by my sister to come and wait at her house for furniture being delivered. She is aware I have my girls with me. I've been here since 7:30. We left home at 6:30am to get here on time. We had breakfast at home and I always carry small snacks.
Am I being unreasonable to think they could at least have left something for our lunch (tin of soup, stuff for beans on toast), anything.
I have found some custard creams and black pudding. That is it!
I wouldn't mind but my sister always eats me out of house and home when she visits. I don't mind but now I am perplexed that there is nowt for us to have at her house.----
I have found various empty plastic tubs that are mine when I give her food home!
I think I am going to have to order pizza to be delivered. God knows when the furniture will arrive and the neighbours will be thinking the youngest is being murdered. She doesn't take well to being hungry! The Incredible Hulk would be more understanding
She has 3 more deliveries after today. I'm going to say get food in or warn me to pack a picnic! I don't except Michelin star food but perhaps a slice of bread.

patterkiller Thu 07-Jan-16 13:46:28

Go with the pizza and leave her the bill. Yanbu, I would have made sure their was good in or made a pan of soup with rolls.

patterkiller Thu 07-Jan-16 13:48:41

*food not good.

whois Thu 07-Jan-16 13:49:25

Wow yeah I would expect her to have left something nice for lunch, order pizza and ask her for he money.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum Thu 07-Jan-16 13:49:42

Personally, I'd tell her to wait in for her own deliveries from now on.

TheSpottedZebra Thu 07-Jan-16 13:52:31

Have you not asked her what there is to eat?

LineyReborn Thu 07-Jan-16 13:53:26

I'd text and say you need to go home to get the girls something to eat, as there's no food at hers even for toast and you are caught on the hop. She'll have to come and take over the waiting in as of 3pm.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum Thu 07-Jan-16 13:54:50

I had a similar experience with SiL about 25 yrs ago. I went straight to her house from work to babysit (around 6:00pm), so had nothing to eat from lunchtime. She and her husband didn't come home until about 2:00am. There was absolutely nothing in her house to eat - no bread to even make a slice of toast, not even a biscuit. And in those days you couldn't order takeaways over the phone.

I never babysat for her again.

On the very rare occasion PiLs babysat for us, I would leave a veritable feast for them. It's only polite!

InternationalHouseofToast Thu 07-Jan-16 13:55:30

UANBU. I'd have bought you some nice biscuits, got the tea out and made sure there was food in for you because the whole point of you being there is that you can't leave the house.

I'm stunned you agreed to cover something that meant you had to leave home with young children at 6.30am though, and take my hat off to you that you got out of the house at that time!

Arfarfanarf Thu 07-Jan-16 13:58:35

Shes got no food in the house? No cereal, no bread, nothing in the freezer? Is this normal for them? What do they eat? Do they buy daily?

Id certainly be asking her about it. I think its not unreasonable to feed someone who is doing you the favour of being at your house all day to help you out

blaeberry Thu 07-Jan-16 13:59:16

I would go out and get some food and if I missed the delivery men then so be it.

TamaraLamara Thu 07-Jan-16 14:06:04

Ring her and ask where she's left your lunch as you can't seem to find it. If she says she's left you nothing tell her you're going home for lunch and will return to wait after you've all eaten. Or give her your pizza order and tell her to order/pay for it.

Bloody ignorant behaviour on her part though.

PicnicPie Thu 07-Jan-16 14:08:15

So inconsiderate of her! Esp as you have kids with you too.

I second pizza delivery.

Viviennemary Thu 07-Jan-16 14:09:32

I don't think I'd have left food but wouldn't expect somebody to wait in my house all day for a delivery. So it's hard to say really. I suppose I'd expect them just to eat whats there. Bread eggs tin of something. I wouldn't have laid on a special lunch.

TamaraLamara Thu 07-Jan-16 14:11:28

I wouldn't expect a 'special' lunch either, Vivienne, but if there's only custard creams and black pudding in the house shock

kaitlinktm Thu 07-Jan-16 14:13:09

But as I understand it there is NOTHING in Viviennemary - not even bread, never mind eggs or a tin of something.

Seriously - who lives like that?

As Arfanarf says - what do they eat themselves?

Do you think they've hidden all the nosh? confused

BarbaraofSeville Thu 07-Jan-16 14:13:36

It probably wouldn't have occurred to me to offer lunch to someone waiting in for me blush but our cupboards and freezer are so stuffed with food that you would be able to take your pick and obiviously I would be happy for you to do so.

It seems such an alien concept to me to not have food in (poverty issues aside obviously). Do some people not have 'store cupboards'? What do they eat? We have bread, milk, eggs, cheese, pasta, veg and salad, frozen meat, tinned and packet stuff, baking stuff, etc etc etc. in all the time.

Does your sister eat out a lot? Or has she just moved in?

BertrandRussell Thu 07-Jan-16 14:14:48

I can't imagine being in a house with no food in it! No pasta? Rice? Cheese? Nothing in the freezer?

OnlyLovers Thu 07-Jan-16 14:18:28

No, YANBU. I'd leave nice crisps or biscuits or olives or something, plus offer in advance to get in something for lunch (just a tub of soup or a nice salad or something), if they could let me know what they might like.

expatinscotland Thu 07-Jan-16 14:19:34

Text her that there's nothing there and you need to feed the kids so you are LEAVING. Don't do this for her again.

EvansOvalPiesYumYum Thu 07-Jan-16 14:19:45

SiL's house is like this. Her youngest son (aged 20) usually comes to us for dinner if he hasn't eaten a takeaway already because she has nothing there. DS has been to her house, and he says her cupboards and fridge/freezer are always totally empty. She doesn't cook, at all.

Tiggeryoubastard Thu 07-Jan-16 14:20:05

Unless you are seriously on the breadline (and probably wouldn't be waiting for lots of deliveries in that case) who on earth wouldn't have any food in the house? How can someone live like that? I just can't imagine it. And yes, that's really out of order for there to be no food for you all. I wouldn't make a special lunch, anybody I trusted to be in my house would be given the run of the fridge, freezer and cupboards.
What a bizarre way for her to live.

MushroomMama Thu 07-Jan-16 14:22:29

That's really weird!

Anaffaquine123 Thu 07-Jan-16 14:24:45

We only have each other as family. She and her partner are both teachers so it is tricky for them to get time off for deliveries.
I was already a bit annoyed about having to get the girls up and out so early. However, dsis has done lots for me.
However, to turn up and find zilch in her cupboards. No cereal or tins or bread, half a pack of really chilli peanuts, some custard creams and 3 slices of black pudding made me really annoyed!
I phoned her and she said sorry, she hadn't even thought about it.
They moved in 5 weeks ago so I've no idea what they have been eating since moving. Apart from when they've been at our house twice a week
Her dp came with a tin of beans and sausages and bread and yoghurts.!Girls are now fed. All is well.
I just wasn't sure if I was being unreasonable as my whole family say I am a feeder they have a point.
I would always have a heap of food for people.
Delivery has now arrived, was supposed to be between 7:45 and 1pm so I suppose it could be argued that she didn't expect us to still be here at lunchtime but well, we were.
Away home to finish off my stash of Christmas chocolates!

TheTigerIsOut Thu 07-Jan-16 14:25:48

I would just ring her to tell her that you need to go home as the children are hungry. She will hit the roof as sefish people do, but I don't think I would care. If she couldn't even imagine that you and your children do need to eat, you can say you did your part by being there so early. If the furniture comes later is ger fault.

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