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jellypopmummy Thu 07-Jan-16 02:12:30

Tomorrow is the first day of term (she's in p1) but my dd5 has decided to not go to sleep until 1:30am. She was put to bed at her normal bed time but has been up and down all night. I get her pattern might be wonky after xmas but she is doing the 'I need the toilet/water/cuddle' shenanigans, which just results in us taking her back to bed and not engaging. Am I being unreasonable to think she will just have to suck it up and deal or given her concentration will be off and likely her mood should I let her recover?

buntingbingo Thu 07-Jan-16 02:22:32

No way.. send her in. It's a life lesson.

NameChange7thJan Thu 07-Jan-16 02:23:06

Definitely send her. It will, and an early bedtime tomorrow should sort her out

corlette Thu 07-Jan-16 02:27:15

YANBU. I'd send her too.
If she has a day off that makes for possible shenanigans tomorrow night. It's just dragging it out.
It'd be school as usual, followed by a quiet evening of bath, tea and early bed for the rest of week.
Good luck!

SladeGreen Thu 07-Jan-16 02:51:12

Send her in. If you keep her off to "recover," then she will put on the same performance tomorrow night as well.

She'll be tired tomorrow but tough, that's life and she needs to learn.

timelytess Thu 07-Jan-16 03:25:24

Might she have been stressed out by the impending return to school? I always was, when I was a teacher. I'd go with the general view, though, and send her in, so she can get back into the routine of school and so she can get good and tired ready for sleeping tomorrow night. Perhaps check at lunchtime that she isn't too tired for afternoon school, if that's how your school day is set up.

redcaryellowcar Thu 07-Jan-16 04:25:23

I think I would send her, but maybe mention to her teacher, imagine if she's really exhausted they could call you to go to collect her earlier?

knobblyknee Thu 07-Jan-16 06:02:44

Send her to school as usual, otherwise she learns to mess about all night if she wants to miss school the next day.
It will also - hopefully - teach her that staying up all night makes you feel really tired the next day.

Asskicker Thu 07-Jan-16 06:36:32

Unless there was a genuine reason not to send her to school, I would.

Like is everything ok at school, is she anxious to return?

Janeymoo50 Thu 07-Jan-16 07:12:43

Send her. She'll be tired tonight but early night then.

Schwabischeweihnachtskanne Thu 07-Jan-16 07:14:25

She's probably slightly nervous about going back even if she likes school and doesn't recognise that's what she's feeling. Send her or it will only build up and be worse or the same again each night til she does eventually go back and realise its just same old same old and nothing to be nervous about! One of my kids gets a bit the same about any transition going back but is always fine once he's actually done whatever it is - gone back for the first day of term or whatever...

RealityCheque Thu 07-Jan-16 07:17:24

I am amazed that even considering keeping her off school is an option!

jellypopmummy Thu 07-Jan-16 08:01:29

No, she loves school and wants to go in, it was just in case she would be tired etc. In she goes lol. Thanks

Creampastry Thu 07-Jan-16 08:26:48

Just send her in. Not an issue.

BeanGirls Thu 07-Jan-16 08:36:18

Oh yes definitely send her in

jellypopmummy Thu 07-Jan-16 08:50:18

Got her up and she seems to be perky enough. I know she will crash later. Early night tonight definitely

HSMMaCM Thu 07-Jan-16 09:14:51

Hope you sent her in and warned the teacher. She will probably be crabby and grumpy all day and may fall asleep on her desk this afternoon, but she will be fine.

Topseyt Thu 07-Jan-16 09:16:47

I would have no sympathy with her for that at all and would send her in without question.

wigglesrock Thu 07-Jan-16 09:44:57

My 4 year old (P1) can have nights like that sometimes - can't/won't settle - we would have the odd night where's she's awake between 1 and maybe 3.30am. No real rhyme or reason to it, it's not before the first day back to school/birthday/school trips etc. She still goes to school the next day.

passion4pno Thu 07-Jan-16 10:10:59

I would send her. Otherwise she'll keep doing this. Hate the bedtime battles. Hope things settle soon

Believeitornot Thu 07-Jan-16 10:14:18

My 6 year old was anxious about returning to school - which only came out at bedtime and I asked him what was in his head (he was messing about). We had a chat and he settled really quickly. I didn't realise he was worried - he hadn't mentioned anything and usually runs into class!

Lurkedforever1 Thu 07-Jan-16 10:17:00

Send her in. I think I would just tell the teacher/ office that if the teacher wants you to come and take her home at any point you will. (Obviously out of dds earshot. And definitely not cos dd tells the teacher she wants to go home, I'm thinking more if she falls properly asleep in class I'd want the teacher to know they have that option iyswim)

voodoolooloo Thu 07-Jan-16 10:17:14

My 10 year old spent until 11pm reading under the covers last night. Only discovered when she fell asleep and dropped my kindle light! I've sent her in, although she's a lot bigger than your DD. It wouldn't even be an option to have a day off. Lesson learned. Early night tonight!

AndNowItsSeven Thu 07-Jan-16 10:18:41

At four no way would I send her in, is she even compulsory school age yet?

WorraLiberty Thu 07-Jan-16 10:19:38

Send her in.

I could never sleep the night before going back to school when I was a kid.

My 3 kids were the same but you just have to get on with it.

She certainly won't be the only tired child in class.

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