DH and I both want DH to get parental responsibility for my DD(10). He has been the most brilliant dad to her since she was 2yo and they adore each other. DD's bio dad lives thousands of miles away, never visits, pays a bit of maintenance when he remembers not very often but does enjoy spending time with DD when I take her to visit him.
Mainly we want DH to have PR so that he wouldn't be worried about having no rights over DD if I died unexpectedly, but other minor advantages too eg dealing with doctors, authorities etc. Bio dad doesn't consent to this as he thinks that in the event of my death, DD should leave family, friends and home and go live with him. (Bio dad would also still have parental responsibility so if I died and both 'dads' wanted DD, a court would have to decide on her best interests)
Dilemma is that I'm taking DD to visit his home country shortly, for the first time in over 2 years. Would it be unethical/wrong to say that he can't see DD unless he consents to DH having parental responsibility?
I can give more explanation if it helps, but wanted to keep it as simple as possible for now to get people's views! TIA
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6v90xu20 · 05/01/2016 09:21
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