Been with DP since I was 17 and he's been my only partner. He's not very tactile and so I'm not because unnecessary touching wasn't well received. Its never been a massive deal for me I got used to it. We always sit separate, no kissing or cuddles or anything like that of an evening.
If I try to initiate sex it's always rejected. I don't bring it up because when I have done I'm told I'm turning it into a big deal and it'll exacerbate the issue. It's a long time since I've brought it up, again I just get on with it and wait til he finally initiates it.
At the moment this is very rare because he sleeps in the spare room. He's a bad sleeper so needs perfect conditions to get a decent sleep.
We have the same sense of humour and I don't mind us being a bit straight talking no nonsense with each other. I do that with friends though and I'm not reliant on them for a fuck as well.
The AIBU bit is that my DP has been depressed in the past and I think he is battling to keep it under control at the moment, as in to stop the negative spiral. So I should accept his need for sleep and personal space and STFU??
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To be fed up with lack of intimacy
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Imstickingwiththisone · 04/01/2016 22:49
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