Birthday party etiquette - poll ?

[IncognitoFajito]

Quick yes or no. DD1 birthday in a couple weeks .

She has two cousins similar age who she rarely sees . Maybe 3 to 4 times per year . They live close by . No other family so it will just be school friends .

We would like to keep numbers down due to cost .

Do I invite them to her party ?

[Chamonix1]

Yes

[5madthings]

No nor if it's a school friends party, you can see them.another day around her bday?

I mean you can if you want but you don't sound particularly close? Does dd want to invite them?

[wineoclockthanks]

No to the party, possibly invite them around for tea. (Assuming she hasn't been invited to all their parties).

[SanityClause]

No need, if she rarely sees them.

[Janek]

No, they won't know anyone, they'll hate it!

[AutumnLeavesArePretty]

Yes, time is short at times so any chance to catch up with family should be taken.

[Cressandra]

Sorry, I think this depends on your family. Does she get invited to their parties?

[Tantrictantrum]

No

[WipsGlitter]

No.

[Sparkletastic]

No

[CremeEggThief]

Yes.

[IncognitoFajito]

For the first party DD1 had we invited them .

For their DDs party , they had school friends and then did a separate family tea . We didn't attend family tea as we had already plans .

[cariadlet]

Not unless dd is asking for them to come. If they live fairly near but you only see them a few times a year then they can't be that close so you shouldn't feel obliged. They might feel a bit awkward at the party as the school friends will all know each other.

[NorthernRosie]

No, but then I never see my cousins and couldn't care less!

[ClemFandagoDoesTheTango]

Did she get invited to her cousins' parties?

[MsColouring]

It depends - are they similar age? Is it a specific activity with limited numbers?

[ClemFandagoDoesTheTango]

Cross post.

I would probably invite them then.

[IncognitoFajito]

DD hasn't mentioned them coming - they don't really know each other , other than for an hours meet up a few times a year.

I will offer for our DDs to get together for a tea . That should be ok shouldn't it ?

[Fixinggood]

No. My dds are close to their cousins. See them weekly but school parties now are just for school friends. It's a weird dynamic otherwise, in my experience.

[formerbabe]

No...I wouldn't invite them.

[IncognitoFajito]

It's an activity that doesn't have a set limit , but the activity would be better with less children iykwim?

It's also charged per head .

[Quiero]

No

[Wildernessrock]

No, they won't know anyone. I might do a seperate family tea party and invite them to that.

[eddielizzard]

no don't invite. do separate family tea.

[TeenAndTween]

No.
Invite to separate family tea if you want to.