I'm sitting on the fence with this one.
Xp has dd (6) once a week. Was decided 5 years ago when he walked out on her and I had to get childcare etc and then he decided after 6 months he wanted to know. I said I wasn't uprooting her life again for him to decide a few weeks down the line to stop contact again.
In those 5 years he's not picked up other nights/days with her when offered and my parents have had her or I've had to cancel work/plans etc. But he will ask last minute if he can have her at weekends when his dad is over.
I discover over Christmas that her grandfather asked dd if she would like to go on holiday with her dad to visit him in Portugal.
I messaged him today stating that I'd prefer it if it would be discussed with me first before mentioning it to her. As she now thinks she's off to Portugal. I've told him I'm not happy as he's not taken her away on holiday before and I would prefer him to take her on a few holidays in the uk first before he decides to take her abroad. Especially as dd doesn't overly like his new dp, I personally don't have any feelings on her but have in the past asked him to have a quiet word as she has done things that dd didn't like. (Checking dd's chest for a temp, going into a toilet cubicle with dd when dd is more than capable of taking herself to a toilet)
I discussed with him about my parents taking dd to America in the summer, while I'm not too happy as I won't be going he said he had no problems with it. Parents have dd while I work at weekends. Bless them. Get rid of me and my bro and get my dd instead.
Now I'm sitting here wondering if I'm BU telling him he's got to take her on holiday in the uk a bit more first as he's her father and should be allowed to take her away on holiday when he wants. Or whether I'm NBU and should stick my ground.
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hufflebottom · 04/01/2016 13:21
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