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To think this was a bit of a cheeky request?

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BlueRaptor Sun 03-Jan-16 21:01:30

Have a friend who moved abroad a few years ago, we were close before they left and did keep in contact a bit, but definitely drifted. Now they're back for a couple of weeks and have brought new friends from where they currently live with them.

They wanted to go out fairly local to where I live, I was invited to go along but declined as had other plans and wouldn't be at home that night. Then got a text from said friend asking if they and the friends could stay at my house when I wasn't there as it was closer to where they were going out and would mean they didn't have to pay the expensive cab fare.

AIBU to think this is bloody cheeky? I'd find it odd if a very close friend made this request, let alone someone who I don't often talk to and wants to take two people I've never met back as well!

(A firm but polite 'no' was given!)

nilbyname Sun 03-Jan-16 21:02:49

Weird and cheeky! Good for you to say no!

Aeroflotgirl Sun 03-Jan-16 21:11:30

Yanbu how rude. Say no we cant, sorry.

expatinscotland Sun 03-Jan-16 21:13:13

WTAF? Just let strangers you don't know stay in your home whilst you are not there? Yeah, that's cheeky. YANBU.

Firsteverchangeofname Sun 03-Jan-16 21:13:35

Bit cheeky
Especially as you won't even be there!!

Birdsgottafly Sun 03-Jan-16 21:19:41

She's confusing you with AirBnb.

BlueRaptor Sun 03-Jan-16 21:20:27

Glad to know it's not just me who thought it was ridiculous! DP was cross they'd even asked. My reply was also ignored for several hours (wonders of whatsapp let you see when it has been read!) which I think annoyed me even more.

Moreisnnogedag Sun 03-Jan-16 21:20:53

Well they've certainly got balls. Beyond cheeky. Can I ask how old you all are? I can only think that this would be ok in my early 20s!

BlueRaptor Sun 03-Jan-16 21:23:28

Early to mid 20s yes, still don't think I'd have the audacity to ask the same of someone else though. Like I said I'd feel a bit weird about it if it were a close friend that I saw regularly, it was the fact it was someone I haven't seen for years, wanting to stay with people I've never met. Odd. hmm

dontcallmethatyoucunt Sun 03-Jan-16 21:24:12

I wouldn't ask, but I would have said yes. Why not?

BlueRaptor Sun 03-Jan-16 21:26:05

Really, would it not bother you?

Just not sure I'd want people in my house that I've never met. We only have one bedroom as well, and a sofa bed, so someone would have been sleeping in my bed which makes me feel a bit gross!

expatinscotland Sun 03-Jan-16 21:27:19

'I wouldn't ask, but I would have said yes. Why not?'

Because she doesn't know who they are and she wouldn't be there and they'd be sleeping in her bed.


expatinscotland Sun 03-Jan-16 21:28:24

I wouldn't have asked, either. If you weren't going to be there, it's a fucking cheek.

beelover Sun 03-Jan-16 21:29:36

Omg very cheeky indeed and I would definitely have said no too.

dontcallmethatyoucunt Sun 03-Jan-16 21:34:23

Wouldn't bother me. I've let friends of friends stay in our house while we've been away. I just thought of them as house sitters. In this situation I would just think, yeah, lock the door and post the keys when you leave.

My friends have had our house a couple of times when over from Japan.

The OP knows one of the party, I think that's good enough.

I would assume that guests conduct themselves with a modicum of respect.

Wombat87 Sun 03-Jan-16 21:34:23

Haha MIL got invited somewhere once for an event in our city by someone she knows. Turns out MIL only got invited because the someone wanted somewhere to stay for free. Worse of all. It wasn't just MIL and said someone. It was them 2 plus at least 2 others that we've never even heard of. MIL didn't let that request reach our ears until much MUCH further down the line and said no for us.

YANBU and that's so cheeky it made me laugh!

dontcallmethatyoucunt Sun 03-Jan-16 21:36:08

Gosh perhaps I'm more chilled than most. What can they do, that's so offensive?!

Pipbin Sun 03-Jan-16 21:37:17

You don't have a holiday home in Mexico do you?

DancingDuck Sun 03-Jan-16 21:39:52

I think it may be a cultural shift from living abroad. People often go out of their way to welcome strangers when they are ex pats (from whatever country) and forget how uptight we are in Britain. I remember getting a call on Christmas Day once from someone who'd arrived from Uruguay and told me his friend had said I was nice and would let him stay. I barely remembered his friend - a woman I'd worked with in Turkey for about two days! But I went to collect him on NYE and he ended up staying at mine off and on for two years. He was really quite sweet and nice, if a bit of a free loader. There is a lovely, welcoming attitude among the international community which we find a bit odd but I can see how your friend asked without realising it would cause you offense if she has recently been living in a culture where it's more normal.

BlueRaptor Sun 03-Jan-16 21:39:55

Pipbin - I very much wish I had a holiday home in Mexico. I unfortunately only have a small one bedroom in London instead wink

dontcallmethatyoucunt Sun 03-Jan-16 21:39:58

Why, do you want to stay? grin

expatinscotland Sun 03-Jan-16 21:41:04

'Gosh perhaps I'm more chilled than most.'

Yes, of course, anyone who finds it a cheeky for people to ask if total strangers can stay in their house, sleep in their bed without their being there is just uptight hmm.

Sure, just post the keys, I don't need them to get into my flat when my husband isn't here.

Biscuitsneeded Sun 03-Jan-16 21:41:17

A friend of mine who is French (living in France) once asked if her brother who I had met maybe twice and his wife (never met) could stay in my flat in London, as I was going to be away and they wanted to have a budget honeymoon in London. I didn't think this was an unreasonable request since I wasn't going to be there and London is so expensive for tourists. They left me some very nice wine. And several months later they wrote to me and told me that they had conceived their first child in my bed!! I was quite chuffed to hear it, really.

dontcallmethatyoucunt Sun 03-Jan-16 21:43:16

Don't you have spare keys expat, honestly I do think it's a bit uptight. What are these people going to do that's so offensive?

ExitPursuedByABear Sun 03-Jan-16 21:43:48

Ah London.

Cheeky feckers.

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