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This is an OTT reaction from crazed DP isn't it??

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LemmysMole Sat 02-Jan-16 22:56:41

I feel like I'm going crazy.

Earlier dp confused me for his ex for the 2nd time in two days (another thread). On top of this he's been really argumentative and snappy with me for the past week or so - example was recently snapping at me when I mentioned our upcoming wedding saying he was sick of hearing about it. He also seems to have gone off sex and even seems reluctant to kiss me giving me a quick kiss then pulling away.

So tonight when he again confused a time with his ex for a time with me I got upset, told him I was pissed off and when he came to hug me I declined (he does this to me ALL the time! I very rarely do it).

Anyway he shut himself away in the dining room. I gave him 20 minutes or so then went in asking if he was going to watch the movie with me. He said "no". I said "don't be like this, I was upset, can we forget it?" And he went into full blown crazed mode - said I wasn't to touch him or go near him, said he was going to call the police if I went near him, started to call the police when I went to hug him. Told me to fuck off and "do one" ... I started to cry (unusual) and told him I didn't want to argue and he carried kicking off at me - physically pushed me away when I went to hug him, refused to talk to me, said he was 'livid' with me and didn't want me near him and when I begged him to stop it (honestly he was acting like a mad man jumping around saying I was abusing him) he imitated me saying I was a drama queen and how hard must it be to live with such a bastard.

Even if I initially over reacted about the reference to his ex (which I fully admit) surely his response is bat shit crazy?? Or is it me?? I really wonder some times

AgentZigzag Sat 02-Jan-16 23:00:16

I think he's trying to tell you something sad

You're not BU and you shouldn't marry this man.

HappyGirlNow Sat 02-Jan-16 23:01:05

I see you have another thread on the go.. Yes, he is a melodramatic prick.

AgentZigzag Sat 02-Jan-16 23:01:27

I can't believe you're still with him after he's mistaken you for his ex twice in two days.

strawberryandaflake Sat 02-Jan-16 23:02:28

Sounds like he is cheating and is trying to make out you're the bs guy so he doesn't feel so guilty about it.

Ditch him now.

DoreenLethal Sat 02-Jan-16 23:02:41

What the fuck are you doing, planning on marrying this man?

Jesus, end it before you cant just walk away without a fucking divorce to go through.

LemmysMole Sat 02-Jan-16 23:03:33

I just feel so confused. Christmas Day we were writing out wedding invites. A couple of days later he goes mad saying he's sick of hearing about it. Argues over everything I say and goes mental because I get a bit upset about something. I wish he'd just be honest with me.

GloGirl Sat 02-Jan-16 23:03:53

Is he ok? Is this a total personality change?

Clobbered Sat 02-Jan-16 23:05:00

Run for the hills!

LemmysMole Sat 02-Jan-16 23:05:26

It's not "totally" out of character but it is extreme even for him. I thought he was going to hit me at one point. First time ever I've felt like that, he seemed completely removed from the man I know sad

Writerwannabe83 Sat 02-Jan-16 23:06:26

He sounds very unhinged.

VagueIdeas Sat 02-Jan-16 23:06:27

Please don't marry him.

Men who want to marry you don't say they're "sick of hearing" about their upcoming wedding. They tend to be happy and excited and actively involved in planning it.

I'm sorry OP. But better to know now than a couple of years into married life.

DoreenLethal Sat 02-Jan-16 23:07:09

Have you considered that the man you know is the act and this is the real him?

LemmysMole Sat 02-Jan-16 23:07:28

I am paranoid, hugely. I've had a funny feeling for a few weeks now, a feeling I couldn't explain. He changed his Facebook and hotmail password and set up a new email address. All 3 check out (very early on he tried to cheat so yeah, I occasionally check up) and nothing sinister seems to be going on. Something just doesn't feel right and I can't explain it.

RJnomore1 Sat 02-Jan-16 23:10:05

In this case trust your instincts love. He's doing everything but writing a note saying "I don't wNt to Marry you". I don't know if he's got someone else on the go or not (ex?) but please please be the one who puts a stop to it now.

violetbunny Sat 02-Jan-16 23:10:53

I think the fact you cannot trust him is reason enough on its own to reconsider whether you really want to spend the rest of your life with this man.

LemmysMole Sat 02-Jan-16 23:11:25

I'm scared, I know that sounds soft as shit but I love this man and I see my whole world falling apart in front of my eyes.

DragonsCanHop Sat 02-Jan-16 23:12:52

Trust your instincts.

He could be acting out to make you dump him because he is too much of a prick to tell you the truth.

You aren't even married yet for fuck sake please dint a marry him

RJnomore1 Sat 02-Jan-16 23:13:12

Is there someone in rl you can phone or go to love?

LemmysMole Sat 02-Jan-16 23:13:46

He's been smoking cannabis but that doesn't turn people aggressive does it - shouldn't it be the opposite? Apart from anything else from past experience - even if it was the canbabis/drink whatever he'll still stand by himself tomorrow when he's sober.

He is telling you with both words and behaviour that he doesn't want to marry you. Please listen now rather than later.

LemmysMole Sat 02-Jan-16 23:16:02

No I have nobody close to me, I'm very much an introvert which I feel has made me so bloody emotionally dependant on him. I was sobbing on him and he just sat stone faced telling me to fuck off and stop the drama. The coldness he shows towards me hurts so much. He never apologises and will make out tomorrow that this was all my doing and the worst bit about it is - I know I'll end up believing him.

DreamingOfThruxtons Sat 02-Jan-16 23:16:10

Does he smoke skunk?

DragonsCanHop Sat 02-Jan-16 23:16:12

Stop making excuses for his behaviour. He is showing you who he really is.

LemmysMole Sat 02-Jan-16 23:16:53

I don't know what skunk is, I just know he smokes cannabis.

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