to think maybe i offended him...

[chickenlickentheskythesky]

went on a first date yesterday, was good fun.

it was pretty cold out so as we we were leaving restaurant, he kind of draped his jacket round me as i was shivering despite wearing a thick coat! he on the other hand was only wearing a shirt and thin jacket...

i kindly gave it back to him, and was like no, no, youll freeze!

my friends are now saying I should have taken it, and I might have made him feel like less of a man?! i know it's silly but really, do men think like that?

[LordBrightside]

Total nonsense. A lot of women really don't understand men at all.

[MoMoTy]

Yanbu, you were being practical and he was being sweet. Your friends are overthinking it.

[ProfessorPreciseaBug]

Yes....
Men do like to be able look after a woman.... (well some do).

PS, I have a bit of insight into this one...

[BlueRaptor]

I'm sure he probably appreciated you saying no if it was chilly out! It was kind of him to offer, however I'm sure he's thought no more of it and shouldn't be offended :)

[chickenlickentheskythesky]

ahhhhhhh i really didnt mean to though!

i can see were theyre coming from but equally, i wasnt cold and he was clearly frozen!! i'm not going to accept his jacket just to let him be gentlemanly?!

[Helmetbymidnight]

Why would that/could that possibly be offensive?!

If he gets in touch or doesn't, it won't be because of that.

[Wolfiefan]

If he's really so insecure he honestly isn't worth a second date!

[TimeToMuskUp]

God no, all that thinking men have to be gentlemanly at the expense of themselves is nonsense. I wouldn't freeze for DH and I wouldn't expect him to freeze for me.

How did the date go, aside from that bit?

[PurpleDaisies]

I agree your friends are over analysing this-if he seriously decides not to call you over the coat thing he definitely isn't right for you anyway.

[TheRadiantAerynSun]

It was nice of him to offer and it was fine for you to refuse.

You really don't want to be bothering by the kind of person that would be offended by something like that anyway.

[chickenlickentheskythesky]

it was really good!!

we got tipsy and giggly, and have arranged another date for tonight - not sure if realistically we'll be able to see each other again as he's moving abroad in a couple of months and we live four hours away from each other - but will be nice while it lasts

[WorraLiberty]

"Less of a man"?

Are your friends from the 1950s?

[Doobigetta]

I'd say if he really couldn't handle you not accepting his jacket that signals "controlling" to me. You might have had a lucky escape.