To be concerned about this woman?

(18 Posts)
corgiology Fri 01-Jan-16 18:58:57

Was walking the dog in the woods with my partner and it was dark. Lady walking in front of us wailing and clearly upset. She went round the corner and hid in the bush until we went past and then she went into the woods. I contacted the police who are investigating but my partner really bothered me by saying I hope she doesn't kill herself. We didn't speak to her as we were also concerned for our safety in the dark. She was clearly vulnerable and there have been attacks in the woods in the past. I hope she is OK. Is my mind being unreasonable in not letting me forget about it? :/

BlueRaptor Fri 01-Jan-16 19:00:20

I don't think you're BU at all to be concerned - things like that always have a habit of playing on your mind. I think you absolutely did the right thing to report it.

EponasWildDaughter Fri 01-Jan-16 19:01:36

When was it? You can ask the police for a vague update. They wont tell you much but they'll tell you that they found her and the situation is in hand, etc etc. Might put your mind at rest a bit.

YouBastardSockBalls Fri 01-Jan-16 19:02:50

Sounds awful. I'd like to think impulse have approached her though, especially if I was with DH. But it's a good thing you rang the police.

YouBastardSockBalls Fri 01-Jan-16 19:03:12

*I'd have

fitforflighting Fri 01-Jan-16 19:03:30

I was going to say ring the non emergency police line just to see if they can do a welfare check but I see that you have already done that so not much else that you can do. Well done for calling them though.

Lara2 Fri 01-Jan-16 19:04:11

No, YANBU, you are being thoughtful and caring. You did the right thing by calling the police - you just have to let them handle the situation now. She may or may not try to harm herself but you called the police and they will respond quickly.

corgiology Fri 01-Jan-16 19:04:29

I guess being new years day people may be more vulnerable anway. Did wonder about contacting the police again but wasn't sure if they would really say anything- what if she did harm herself and they got there too late? I wouldn't want to hear she had died that would upset me more for not interfering more.

SharkSkinThing Fri 01-Jan-16 19:30:52

You did the right thing. flowers

LuluJakey1 Fri 01-Jan-16 19:33:59

It wasn't in the Newcastle area was it? There is a missing woman up here - it has been on the news since Boxing Day.

FlatOnTheHill Fri 01-Jan-16 19:36:39

Sounds awful and you did the right thing re police.

MammaTJ Fri 01-Jan-16 19:42:31

You did the right thing. You can't do any more than that, other than follow her and make her feel afraid, which would have been wrong.

TenTinyTadpoles Fri 01-Jan-16 19:57:50

you did the right thing, it's good to see that there are caring people out there.

Heatherplant Fri 01-Jan-16 20:07:40

You did exactly the right thing, if you don't feel comfortable to approach then that's totally your call to make regardless of who you were with. Also trying to stop her could have resulted in her running further into woodland/becoming more unpredictable etc. It'll play on your mind for a while if you aren't used to seeing people in that state. May be worth ringing back as they will be able to say if someone is located safe/well but they won't say much more than that.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Fri 01-Jan-16 20:17:43

Oh God love her. Her poor mind must be in a turmoil.
You did the right thing, well the only thing you could have done really was to let the police handle the situation themselves.

corgiology Fri 01-Jan-16 21:42:39

No not in Newcastle. I saw her come out of a house on the road so either she just heard some bad news, had an argument or just had enough I'm guessing sad

Hygge Fri 01-Jan-16 21:50:34

It was the right thing to do.

I was driving home once and saw a couple walking along the pavement on a dark lonely street.

Except that as I took a closer look it was clear that she was only on her feet because he was holding her up. If he'd let her go she would have been on the floor.

She looked completely out of things, in a very bad way. I don't know if she was ill, or drunk, or drugged, but something was very wrong with her.

And he was clearly angry. I drove back around to take a better look as I was concerned, and he pushed her against a wall and left her slumped over it, while he's shouted at her and raised his arm, jabbing his finger at her, all very angry and aggressive.

I called the police on the 101 number and told them what was happening and why I was concerned. I described how she looked and what he was doing, and when I said she looked in a very bad way, didn't seem able to take care of herself but looked like she didn't want to be with him, they sent a car to find them.

They arrived just as he pushed her again and ran into the middle of the road before raising his arm to her and shouting at her again.

They saw that happen, and I saw them get out and speak to him, and go to help her.

I don't know what happened after that, but it was a year ago now and I still wonder if she was okay. I think I'd feel a lot worse if I'd just driven by and left her. So I think you've done the right thing, you've tried to help someone who might really need it, and the police told me they'd rather come out and find out all is well than not come out until after someone has come to harm when they could have helped to prevent it.

knobblyknee Fri 01-Jan-16 22:04:01

YANBU. You can imagine how upset and disturbed she was feeling to act that way with no inhibitions.
You did the right thing in getting professional help and not getting involved - you also have a duty of care to yourself.

Whatever the outcome, you got her the right kind of help.
So many people would have taken advantage of her, or laughed at her, or pretended it was none of their business.
Bless you, I hope it turns out ok. flowers

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