AIBU oh wanting to go out..

(29 Posts)
elf0508 Thu 31-Dec-15 18:31:11

My partner has a friend coming over for tonight but now the friend has suggested going out to a pub.. aibu to be a tad upset? It means I'll be on my own.. might as well go to bed lol

vanillavelvet Thu 31-Dec-15 18:33:09

Could you go to the pub too? Or do you have DC in the house?

I'd be upset too - especially as it changes the plans at the last minute.

Arfarfanarf Thu 31-Dec-15 18:33:58

Do you have kids? If not you could go with them?
Or tell him that you really dont want to be left out and ask him to celebrate with you too by sticking to the original plan?

rollonthesummer Thu 31-Dec-15 18:36:10

I take it that you have kids? That being so, your DH will be saying no then!!?

TwatTheNinja Thu 31-Dec-15 18:38:03

If its a case of you stuck at home because they don't want you tagging along,
or because of dc,

Then yes I'd be pretty pissed off.

littleleftie Thu 31-Dec-15 18:39:48

If you cannot go because of DC then YANBU and DH should stick to the original plan.

HeartShapedBox Thu 31-Dec-15 18:40:54

He should be telling his pal no, it's horrible to leave you on your own.

TopHat33 Thu 31-Dec-15 18:42:46

Yanbu. As PP said. You are either invited and go, or can't because of dc in which case they stay in with you as planned.

magoria Thu 31-Dec-15 18:54:09

Pretty shitty of your DP changing plans at this late a date if he has agreed leaving you out in the cold.

Says a lot about how he views you.

Iwanttokillthem Thu 31-Dec-15 19:01:09

Im pretty easy going about my partners social activites. He can go out whenever he likes. Hell, I'll even drive him there -and collect him later smile

But its a definite no to going out alone at Christmas and especially New Year. Its just not right to suddenly contemplate going out with a friend to leave you all alone and it shows a complete lack of respect for you.

Either you both stay in or both go out . No question of it.

formerbabe Thu 31-Dec-15 19:02:31

I don't think it's a big deal and it wouldn't bother me...I'd enjoy the peace and quiet.

SevenOfNineTrue Thu 31-Dec-15 19:02:54

Why can't you go to the pub with them?

SantasLittleMonkeyButler Thu 31-Dec-15 19:04:19

Yes, why can't you go too?

If it's because you have DCs then DH isn't free to go either is he?

HackerFucker22 Thu 31-Dec-15 19:05:57

Need more info.

Is there a concrete reason you can't go?

VintageDresses Thu 31-Dec-15 19:17:29

Depends what the plans were for home and as others have said, why you won't be going with them, but on the face of it I'd be pretty annoyed if DH went out without me NYE.

I'd be relaxed about it any other day, even my birthday,if we had plans for the weekend etc, but not NYE.

VintageDresses Thu 31-Dec-15 19:18:30

Who is the friend and why only his friend? Why weren't your friends coming too?

elf0508 Thu 31-Dec-15 19:21:25

Yeah I've got 18 month old who has just come out of hospital.
My friends haven't bothered with me since 2013, I'm pretty lonely 😢 but thats a while other thread

Topseyt Thu 31-Dec-15 19:22:50

Have they invited you to go? Are you able to go or do you have children and no babysitter.

I think they should be trying to include you if you want to be included. If you can't go because of children then they should be sticking to the original plan and staying with you. If they are treating it as a normal boy's night out and leaving you to it when you would also like to go out and celebrate New Year then that is rather inconsiderate of them - whether you have children or not.

Topseyt Thu 31-Dec-15 19:26:15

OK, cross posted. You have a poorly child and they are planning to leave you to you on your own while they go out celebrating as if nothing has happened.

Not fair IMHO, especially if you wanted to celebrate New Year in the only way open to you, i.e. at home because of the childcare issues.

Doubly inconsiderate of them.

Greengardenpixie Thu 31-Dec-15 19:27:49

I see a row brewing.
No its not right. Yes you have a right to be upset.

formerbabe Thu 31-Dec-15 19:31:54

Yeah I've got 18 month old who has just come out of hospital.

In that case...yanbu!

Gowgirl Thu 31-Dec-15 19:33:25

I think the fact you have lost touch with YOUR friends is the problem, maybe try to build a new network in the new year? Yep he's being an arse but I think you would be happier if you had if not friends but at least coffee mates all year round.

yorkshapudding Thu 31-Dec-15 19:35:33

YANBU.

VintageDresses Thu 31-Dec-15 19:37:10

No, I have a tendency to play devil's advocate on these threads blush but I can't see a way that either of them think that's OK.

Arfarfanarf Thu 31-Dec-15 19:38:14

well, if your partner decides to go, he's a bit of an arse.
can you try to make new friends? mum and toddler groups, meet a mum on netmums, that sort of thing? Some people sneer at that but it's a good way to reach out to new people and you never know, you might click with a few and it's better than not trying, right?

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