I know ILs are a sensitive issue but every visit from them sends my blood pressure sky high. When my mum comes, she will come for a weekend but when the IL's come, they come for a week or so. They are from another country and we only speak their language when we are here which is fine because I do want my kids to be exposed to both sides of their heritage. what bothers me is that as a solitary person, I do value my space. Fil finds it perfectly acceptable to nose in every nook and cranny of the house, including my bedroom without knocking. I have caught him in the past searching through my purse. MIL constantly gets in my children's face telling them how to sit, eat and behave. At the dinner table, she goads my elder son who eats like a bird. I do worry about him and we have chatted about his lack of eating but having MIL scrutinise him every meal time does not help. She tries to spoon feed him FFS. He is 9! Then she eats his leftovers.
They break something every time they are here. Last time MIL broke our chaise Longue as she was too heavy for it. I heard the enormous crack yet she didn't even admit to it! Another time I found coffee stains all up the wall and carpet in the guest room which they didn't even tell me about. They think they have a say in what we do, buy, etc etc. you get the picture. By day two I have had enough and start getting stroppy with dh. If there were no kids, I'd be NC. I haven't forgiven how MIL treated me the day step father died. There is a long back story. Sorry for the rambling. I have until New Year's Day late with them. Luckily DH is off this time but usually he leaves me with them and goes to work.
Wibu to say next time it is Friday-Sunday or nothing, or am I to feel like I can't relax every time they are here?
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Wibu to say next time a weekend is enough?
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disappointed101 · 30/12/2015 10:50
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